How can I express to my boyfriend and mom how I am feeling?

Hey mamas. I’m a 20 yo FTM to an almost two-month-old. I stay home with her and do college online. I’m not working atm and am with my baby all day every day. This has taken a toll, and I get overwhelmed and sad. I’m on antidepressants (started when I was pregnant). After I had my baby, I got on the depo shot. I’m wondering if the birth control is contributing to me feeling defeated? I also feel awkward/bad for admitting this. I don’t know how to talk about it with my mom or bf. I’m just a mama who needs to vent. My bf works long hours, and I don’t see friends often. Looking for advice and encouragement. TIA

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Sounds like postpartum depression

Sounds like postpartum depression. You should see someone.

Look around for new mom groups… go to storytime at the library… :heart:

That shot knocked my daughter around something chronic, she got it twice and had all sorts of issues… And is still dealing with them now and it’s been almost 6 months off it…
Could be a combination of the shot and postpartum depression, but if go to talk go someone asap,

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Start talking to your doctor. It doesn’t get easier. Only worse if you don’t seek help. Good luck mama

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Sounds like ppd. You are absolutely not alone and should NEVER be ashamed for feeling the way you do. Your doctor should be able to provide info on groups and where to get help.

Never be afraid to admit that you need a break. Ask one of them to take care of your baby so you can take a bath and relax or even so you can go to the store alone.

There is nothing to feel bad about. Do you have friends you can confide in, and go with you to the doctor? Your body has gone through so many changes, and this could be postpartum depression. Or, it could be circumstantial - home alone with the baby and isolated. You say you’re on antidepressants, so my first point of call would be your doctor so that they can get to the root of the cause. Good luck xx

Join a mom support group, I bet them have some at your local pregnancy center,

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Definitely ppd. For sure tell your dr. Find ppd mom groups on Facebook to join or even a friend that may have had ppd. It’s very common. You are not alone mama

hugs that’s postpartum. You’re hormones have to settle down again, this will happen over time and sort itself out. Depending where you are take baby for walks or find ways to get out of the house for a little. Your whole world has changed, it will take time to get used to. It’s going to be overwhelming for a while. As long as you feel safe around the baby I would say reach out to mom groups in your area, even on Facebook. Walks to get fresh air. DONT BE HARD ON YOURSELF!!! I know that’s easier said than done but even mom’s who have multiple children go through this. Talk with your doctor too. They will be able to help you. When baby naps take a warm bath, try to pamper yourself when you can. I’ve been there. The slump is hard and you feel alone. YOU ARE NOT!! :heart:

Talk to your dr. Look locally for mom groups. Put your kid in the car and just go out for a day (hard with a newborn, I know)
I am a single mom. Have been since day one. Sometimes all you need is to get away for a day. I used to go over to my sister’s for the weekend just to get out of the house while on leave

A lot of women get the blues being a sahm too. I definitely do sometimes. Make sure you are going out as well! Join a play group and if you need that little break from bubs (nothing wrong with it, everyone does) see if someone you trust can watch them for an hour or two.

That’s the first thing I thought too- postpartum depression. I will say though, I always had trouble with hormonal birth control and found that it exacerbated my mood issues so it may be something to bring up with your doctor as well. Motherhood is hard, just do the best you can and don’t be afraid to ask for help- there is no shame in it! You can do this! :muscle:t2::heart:

I’m not sure about depo shot but I definitely understand feeling defeated. It is hard going from being social to being home all day with no one to talk to. Best advice I can give and what helped me was trying to get out. Maybe sign up for some classes at school next semester just to get out and feel like a person outside of motherhood.

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Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed to ask for help from your family and physician. You deserve to feel better and your child deserves a mom that can give her best. Take time for yourself. Have your mom babysit. Go out and get a massage or your hair done. You got this. As your child gets older it gets much easier. I promise. :revolving_hearts:

Hang in there, Mama, it gets better. You need to check into postpartum depression very soon.

Sounds like it could be postpartum depression. Could be just needing some adult company. Ask Mom to babysit go out for a ladies night with some friends. Ones life doesn’t end because they become a momma it just enriches your life if you don’t let it consume you. Talk with someone about this your Dr. A friend a stranger willing to help what ever it takes. God bless you.:revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts:

We can’t say for sure if it’s from the shot or not as it’s different for everyone. But I would sit down and tell them exactly what you wrote to us.