How can I get in contact with my ex who I am trying to serve divorce papers?

Anyone who’s been through a divorce where the spouse flat out refused to respond to papers and left the state… how did you get your divorce finalized? I don’t want alimony; I don’t want child support. All I wanted was full legal custody of our child and for him to be kept away from us, and this has been granted in a totally separate case. It’s been 11 months since I filed, and it’s been ten since we’ve seen or heard from him. He won’t respond. My lawyer says nothing can be done until he finishes the papers. I know this is absolutely untrue, but at this point, I truly believe she has not wanted to do anything that way she can continue to bill me for “looking for him”, Messing with paperwork, and having pointless convos on the phone of “what’s next” I was able to find out today on Courtnet that he’s never even been served, sheriff couldn’t find him. She’d told me he was served. I can’t afford to retain another attorney for this. And I did file a complaint with the bar association… I do not qualify for legal aid based on my income. Has anyone gone about doing this on their own? Jefferson co. KY

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My now step mom just went to the court house. She was told if her ex didn’t comply everything would b granted to her the way she wanted. Her and my dad have been married for 3 years now

When i asked the courts about mine she said they will put it in the paper for 30 days and if he doesn’t respond i get the divorce. Because i don’t know where he is either

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I don’t know anything about the laws in KY but in NJ I was able to divorce my x without serving him or having him sign a single paper. Ground were that he abandoned me and his kids. I waited about 7ish years to finally do the divorce and we had no assets. I had the kids in my custody and he had no contact because he didn’t want to.

Where I live, you have to go before the judge and get a court order allowing you to post in the paper where your ex resides. They have 30 days to respond. If not, then the divorce process proceeds without them.

Consider consulting with a lawyer.

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Publish it in the papers for 30 days.

In Indiana you go to court and tell Judge you don’t know where spouse is. Judge will have you put ad in paper that your looking for them. Then go back to court in 30 days with copy of ad start date and if spouse doesn’t show up to that court date your automatically divorced and get what ever you want since they are not there to lay claim.

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It sounds like you should go behind your lawyers back and consult a different lawyer.

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ask your lawyer but in most state all u have to do is post it in a paper

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Make sure you have solid proof that you have attempted to contact your spouse publish a divorce notice in paper. File for divorce by default.

You should have an option to go into default court. My dad got his divorce that way, had to attempt and show proof of 3x trying to serve his ex with papers b4 he could do it.

Contact the court. He’s abandoned you therefore you should be granted the divorce and custody.

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It depends on the state you live in but in general if the other person dose bot sign then it dose not continue

I’m in Louisiana. I am going through the same thing. I filed divorce papers. After a couple months of it being in the court system and trying to find him I was told I had to hire a curator (a lawyer that would stand in place of my ex and sign the divorce papers) the curator however had to try to find him first. He had to send letter to known addresses of him then he had to put an ad in the paper for several cycles trying to locate him. After all the attempts a motion for trial had to be filed to get a trial date.

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Just go file. If he doesn’t show, it’s on him

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Try to do a trace on him. I once found somebody by using his birthday and his name. I was trying to serve him divorce papers however he had already gotten divorced by doing a notice of publication and going through the process but we had no children

Had a friend get a divorce from her unavailable spouse by running ad in local newspapers in town that he was last known to live Divorce was finalizing 30 days later

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My ex husband left state and couldn’t find him I had to publish it in the newspaper an then buy said newspaper cut that publishing out take that and the papers the court gave me an had to certify mail it to where his last known address he would have to sign to receive the piece of mail if he didn’t receive it due to not being there anymore an itd get sent back to me an I just bring it all back to the court house showing it was returned

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I would contact some one in the court system where you live tell them what’s going on and ask them what to do file abandon paperwork

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I don’t know about your state but in Florida you can do a divorce by publication

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