"I need some advice on how to get my 2-year-old off the bottle.
I’ve tried putting just water in it or completely throw away the bottles and maybe find him a favorite toy that he likes. I tried having him full before bedtime. Nothing works. His father doesn’t like the idea of quickly removing it due to his tantrums.
When I try to change something or anything for my kids, I am the most hated person on the planet. My son did very well yesterday night because he slept with a full stomach, but tonight just wasn’t cutting it, I guess.
I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong, and I know I’m a bad parent; I know my kids hate me. But what can I do to help my son get off the bottle, so his teeth aren’t messed up? Thank you!"
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“Take him and let him pick out a sippy cup one that doesn’t spill when turned over; tell him that’s his new big boy cup.”
“My daughter just turned one, so no real-life advice from me yet (they make sippy cups with bottle nipple and sippy nipple attachments for easy transition) but I came here to say, even if you’re joking lightheartedly, YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT! And he does not hate you. You are the perfect mother/ father for YOUR baby. Good luck, I hear it doesn’t get any easier.”
“You are not a bad parent, 2-year-olds throw tantrums no matter what. We just went cold turkey, tantrums are to be expected but in my experience, after a couple of days they don’t even think about it anymore. Hang in there, momma.”
“You are not a bad parent and dad and you both need to get on board together and find a plan that works… sometimes taking the bottle away completely and letting them cry it out is the way to go. But it’s a job for two and both have to be onboard… let me tell you I have had to be the mean parent too many times and they get over it. Doesn’t make you bad.”
“You are not a bad parent and they do not hate you. That said you will just have to take it away and let him cry. Hubby will have to live with it or he can do the job of weaning him on his own.”
“Straw cup? Straws are fun! And if parents and older kids use straws it may be helpful too!”
“My 2-year-old was the same!! Always asking, not eating enough solid foods, and throwing tantrums. You just have to pick a day and decide you won’t give in! But stick to it, I gave in many times and gave her the bottle. But I stuck to it, she had many meltdowns, but she is happy and no longer on the bottle!! Good luck!”
“We started out giving my oldest a sippy with handles and a soft nipple, almost like a bottle but not quite. He picked that one up pretty fast but when it came time to upgrade to a sippy where he had to actually suck it out of it, he refused. So it took a little time, he kept losing his sippy so we finally said that was enough. We gave it to him and it took pretty much a whole day before he decided to give it a try. But that was all it took, just not giving him his other sippy, and boom he got it. Same thing with the now current upgrade we did recently to a cup.”
“During the day offer a sippy cup. If the bottle is used for bedtime decrease the amount of milk you put in it each night by an ounce. By the ending of a week or two, the bottle will be empty and you can say “all gone”. Then offer a sippy cup with water to go to bed with. I did this with all my kids, much less traumatic to them and you weren’t taking it cold turkey from them. This is something they have learned to have for two years so it should be weaned off, not just stopped (just my option).”
“Get rid of all the bottles and buy sippy cups. It won’t be easy. But it works. As long as the bottles are available to him and he knows they are he will not give in.”
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