In need of advice. I have an almost six-year-old daughter who, for the last few months, will not listen to anything I tell her, so I feel like I’m constantly yelling at her… I don’t want our relationship to be just her always getting yelled at because she won’t listen. What can I do to get her to listen better? Is this a normal thing they go through at this age!? What do you guys do when your kids don’t listen. I hate feeling like a horrible parent because all I’m doing is yelling at her
Set boundaries. Start putting her in time out until she feels she’s ready to listening to you. Start taking her favorite toys away until she starts to listen let her earn them back… #momof7
My 6 year old son just started this too… Maybe it was the change because he was in preschool before covid but he is constantly testing boundaries. I cry so much I miss my little guy. This new guy gets mad if I say no or it’s dinner time or bed he’s just mean about it. All of it. If I have errands… I’m interrupting his normal life. Weather he’s color or playing trucks he gets pissed. He will literally run at me for taking his toys… And try to snatch it back. It’s so crazy
I wish I had an answer too mama because I hate this period.
In the same boat with my 6 year old son I wish I had advise but I’m fallowing
In the same situation with my 5 year old daughter. I think it has to do With her being home now with me 24/7, and testing to see what she will get away with.
She doesn’t do it with her dad, only me.
I just had a baby Friday so I’m hoping that will help her adjust to behaving since she’s now a big sister.
Give reason for asking her things.
Put the pizza away so we don’t get ants again. You’re making her feel important and valued. Instead of do this bc I said so.
Going through the same thing with my almost 6 year old daughter. I love her so much but oh does make me want to pull my hair out. I have tried everything timeouts, hot sauce, taking toys away and more and its just not working. Talking to her doesn’t work either it just goes right over her head.
My boys are 11 an 13 an still dont listen so good luck with that
I yell scream swear take toys away take electronics away. I have asked calmly an I have also tried bribing them with things an it dont make a bit of difference. Me yelling an screaming an swearing all day everyday is what my kids will remember!! The way I see it is if that isnt what they want to remember then they better grow the fuck up and start listening then plain an simple
Going through the exact same thing with my 7 year old. It’s so hard. I said the same thing. I don’t want to have a relationship where I’m always yelling at him.
My 6 year old does this too. I will ask her nicely 3 times to do what I ask and when she doesnt I say ok since you arent going to do what I ask you to then I will take things away from you. She will throw fits but I talk calmly to her and let her cry it out till shes done. Its frustrating and difficult but it works for us so far. Good luck!
Whisper it in her ear…yes, it is more effort and trouble but if it’s effective then it would be worth it. Sit on the floor…get down to her level. Reward the listening…I had gkids hollering in the car and I quietly said if anyone can hear this I will give them $5.00. No one could hear me and I told them later what they missed. They were quieter in the car later and I said "If anyone can hear this I will give you $2.00) and I had to pay out (it was worth it).
Sometimes we are just blessed with strong willed children, be consistent but compassionate. Be firm but loving and definitely try to get down to eye level when you try to talk to her. Understand that she is human, and has trouble controlling her emotions at this age. Hell most adults have trouble controlling their emotions. If you get to a point where you feel like you might yell, just walk into another room until you can collect yourself enough to talk to her calmly. Her energy will feed off of yours, you have to keep the upper hand by keeping your cool, even if you’re still pissed.
If she is in the middle of TV, a game, or playing take away her activity and get eye level. Repeat what you said. If she doesn’t listen at that time I would have a consequence. She wouldn’t get her toy ect. back until what you asked is done.
Children crave discipline. Whatever you feel as a parent that might be. But if you don’t discipline then you will have a lot of trouble on your hands when they get older.
Stop yelling. In a calm voice tell her what you want her to do. If she doesn’t comply then there needs to be a consequence. A time out. A loss of something of value (a favorite toy or something). Stop screaming and yelling. My daughter knew that when I got quiet and spoke very softly she was in trouble. Teach them young that actions have consequences, good and bad. Encourage good behavior by giving a treat or praise. But also let her know that good behavior is expected and isn’t always rewarded because that’s how our society works. We expect you to be a law abiding, good person when you’re grown.
It’s called selective hearing. I actually had my youngest son’s hearing tested when he was that age. They grow out of it eventually. He now has to deal with his so going through it and he’s an autisic teen. Even worse!
Can she hear you? My daughter when she was younger had fluid in her ears couldn’t hear we when I just talked to her only when I yelled . Which started putting a wall up between us once she got tubes in her ears she could hear at normal level
Just a thought
You’re not being consistent with actions/consequences/punishments. She is not taking you seriously. You should never need to yell if you are being extremely consistent (which I know is time-consuming and hard to do) she would fully understand she gets one warning and you wouldn’t need to yell.
My six year old has been giving me the business but the last month he’s been better. Be consistent, stay calm, and mean what you say.
Make sure you have her attention before you start talking. Make sure she’s looking at you and not fiddling with toys and things. Ask her do you understand? If she says yes ma’am but it seems like she’s just saying it, make her repeat what you said. If she gets it right give her a smile and thanks for listening. If she doesn’t. Tell her what you said and stress the importance of listening. After you’ve given clear instructions of she doesn’t do what you’ve said there have to be consequences. 6 is old enough to be given simple instructions and then follow them.
I’ve notice when mine isn’t doing very good it’s usually because he has to much pent up energy so we go outside or make an obstacle course in the house, and run it off until he’s wore out.