How can I get my child to focus during virtual school?

Anyone else ready to rip your hair out with this online school? I’m over here feeling like I’m drowning trying to keep the mom handle on everything, and now I have to be a teacher… it wouldn’t be so bad if my son tried… but he wants to blow through everything just to be able to play/be lazy etc. Any ideas on how to get this child to focus would be greatly appreciated.

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But is he doing it right? You just said he blows through it but not that he isn’t doing it right. If he’s not doing it right, stop letting them play afterwards.

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I have the same problem it’s so frustrating

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Make the environment where is is able to learn and you can supervise… like a computer desk no tv no games no toys in his room or office… put a video 2 way voice monitor where you can watch and talk to him…

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Idk how old but mine is 8 we have been working with the “blowing” thru things even when school was running. Now same she tries to guess rather then break out a pencil and paper and show the work. So now thats what she needs to do specifically for math. She has a chore chart that school is listed on and if she has to be told multiple times to pay attention and what not it takes away from the reward. She alsi needs to show me any independent work so i can check it. And 90-100 on tests she gets 1$ (mine loves that she gets 1$) (not a spoiled child) so that helps her keep up on what needs to be done.

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How old is he? I would handle different ways depending on age…

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Mine are 1st grader who independently works and adjust fine just need litt help finding pages as ask …my other 4rh grader same way just wants to blow through class …her I have to help daily make sure she completes each assignment most days I can get nothing done but we gotta be supportive this is a big change for them … your doing good… motivation is key

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How old? Maybe set up a schedule with breaks/rewards ?

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I give my 7 year old 1 star for each day that she has a good day and does her work without goofing around or arguing about doing it. After 10 stars, she earns a reward. On Friday, we took a longer lunch break and went to Pizza Ranch(this is what she chose as her reward).

I would encourage a nice walk or bike ride outside before school something to settle his energy. Walk the dog or set up a small simple treasure hunt with coupons for 5 min breaks or snacks or special drinks ect. Make sure its structure time but get his energy out a bit . I know it sounds like one more thing for you to do and yes it is but believe me it could help you both take needed time to get fresh air .

Depending on the age…
Mine are 10 and 12. I’ve bought them their own desks and headsets and put them in their own rooms so no distractions. They know they that when the teacher is on screen, they need to listen and do as they’re asked. I explained it’s just like regular school and you need to pay attention to the teacher. The teacher gives time for stretching and bathroom breaks. Otherwise they are on screen.

How old? My 15 year old was skipping online classes and didn’t do any work for 3 weeks…yes I said 3 weeks…I found out on Monday when I called the school finding it weird that a 10th grader has had no “homework or online” work to be done…well after getting lied to and played for a stupid mom…I took everything other than his bed out of his room…he had untill Friday to get everything done completed (properly ) turned in and to log on and stay on his classes all week just to get his bow back…this week we will work on gaining more back…

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I have a 6 and 8 year old threw out the day I check on them every few minutes and give them props from far away . And tell them wen they need my help to come and tell me . My daughter is the one that gets more with her tantrums but wen she does I tell her joking around I’m unmute her voice speaker so her teacher and her class can see so they can see how she looks ugly acting up and she gets all a quiet and she listens lol

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We have a weekend only rule. They can only play on the electronics on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. It helps in letting them know that just because you rush through everything you get to play until bedtime.

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Girl my son is 10 an he was doing the same exact thing! I live in Indiana tho an they gave parents a choice, to keep there kids home an do school or send them back to school I picked the online school at first, an that lasted maybe 2 weeks my son was not learning ANYTHING an I had to fight with him to do his work an he would try to get me to help him/ do it for him, he’s to scared to ask the teacher anything! So I put his ass back in school! An he was happy to go!! Cause some kids just need that structure! I wish I could help u but I honestly have no idea

I sit with my son and make sure he does his work. We do a sticker chart. Earns a sticker for every day he does school work, and he earns a pencil if he gets a sticker for every day of the week. We also have fidget cubes, a yoga ball, and things to help him sit at the desk. Breaks every 20-30 minutes and a ton of praise when he does things the right way and focuses.

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Kids are not made to sit at a computer for hours a day. kids are supposed to play in the dirt and with cars and with balls and with blocks. Try not to get so frustrated, mum. This is really hard for them too. :heart::heart::heart:

My son is the EXACT same way. He will not engage in the live sessions, & when it comes to me trying to help him, he just ignores me. This is really hard for them as it is us, so I work with him as much as he will let me, I then I give him a break. So right now, we’re working together for 15-20 minutes, then he has a break for 30-45 minutes. It what works for us right now. I’ve been slowly introducing the live sessions back in, so it’s a slow process. I’ve called his teacher to let her know & she even agreed to let him relax a bit, & slowly introduce him back in. :slightly_smiling_face:

I had to baby sit my daughter for the first two days and was in pretty constant contact with her teacher. She did great for a couple of weeks and then started slacking off again, so I took away tv and video games and she lost her weekend until her missing assignments were done. She’s got a specific work area with zero distractions, and that’s also pretty helpful, but the main thing has been staying in communication with her teacher.

I loose my shit almost every day with my 2. I set up a classroom of sorts like they reccomended. It doesn’t help. 1 refuses to do anything. Won’t sit during meets, messes with his sibs computer, throws tantrums. The other has mastered watching YouTube then clicking a assignment tab when I look their computer, won’t ask for or allow us to help. They’re both behind. Teachers are constantly on my case about them. I separated them which allows the 1 to watch YouTube, cut up tiny pieces of paper, basically anything but school. Since separated the other doesn’t have their desk so they don’t sit during meets, don’t have supplies handy etc they still manage to run to the classroom to mess with their sibling.