How can I get my toddler comfortable in his own bed?

My three year old and I have moved into a home with my boyfriend and his son. My son used to sleep with me until we moved. I knew that getting him to sleep in his own bed was going to be hard, but he is waking up every hour and not letting us sleep. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to get him comfortable in his bed

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A cool night light. Glow in the dark stars. It sort of helped me lol

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A story book or two before bed and lots of cuddles

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He interrupts your sleep? He is 3 you interrupted his whole life.

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So literally just went through this. I would put him in bed and he would just cry. I would let him cry for a couple of minutes then I would go lay down with him and keep getting up to leave the room eventually he wouldn’t cry again. And almost every hour he would wake up and come to bed with me. You have to just continue putting him in his own bed. It’ll take about a month to break the habit! Good luck!

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Melatonin…I’m kidding, kinda :joy:
How old is boyfriends son? Maybe make it a “sleepover” kind of thing with them so he feels comfortable. Good luck

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Having the same issue with my 2yr old. I put my selfie light next to his bed at a low setting, also I tuck him into bed and lay with him until he falls asleep… also try snacking and feeding so his nice and full before bedtime. He still wakes up around 4/5am for cuddles but small steps

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He’s having anxiety. Don’t stay with him until he falls asleep then leave. That causes more anxiety when they wake up and suddenly you’re not there. Does he have all his favorites around?

Get a bedtime routine! I have my three year old go potty, the. We brush teeth and mouthwash, then she gets in bed and we turn on the sound machine (white noise), then we do bedtime stories. She has a nightlight. We also have the camera monitors we can talk through (we see her she cannot see us) so if she’s getting up/ restless / trying to do anything but sleep we talk through those. He will get there mama! New places are hard!!

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Did you guys just move in recently? If your doing the whole night time routine maybe he just needs more time to adjust. My now 13 yr old slept on the couch the first yr we bought our first home when she was little. She was super excited to get her own room .picked her own paint ,set it up with all her favorite things the whole nine. She loved it all day n even got tucked in but middle of the night I’d hear her little footsteps come down those stairs n plop on the couch lol.she was a little older too maybe about 6 or 7 lol. I bought her a bear with a flashlight on its tummy n she used it to come down at night. I just let her do her thing and one day she just stopped. May be a little different for you tho because he is still a baby and just wants to sleep with momma so lots of hug cuddles and reassurance n patience will get you both thru this be because it may take some time lol. For a nightlight try a lava lamp. Something he a stare at til his eyes get tired on him and yes melatonin is ok sometimes

Make sure he is nice and full before going to bed. Be very firm and put him back to bed whenever he gets out of bed.

I didn’t have this problem but just a thought…maybe a body pillow to tuck next to him? That way he feels as though someone is next to him.
That’s a big change for a little guy, don’t get upset with him. He is not used to being alone.

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If he is sleeping in a toddler bed maybe consider an upgrade to a “big boy” bed… my daughter hated her toddler bed and slept with us every night until we moved into our new home and we upgraded her bed and now she sleeps in her own bed a lot better… may not work for everyone, but might be something to think about…

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Thats gonna be difficult, not only is his security and comfort gone sleeping with mommy but being in a new environment as well is problem causing some anxiety. Try falling asleep next to him and putting him to bed with a stuffed animals in front of or behind him to give him the feeling of you being there.

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Let him pick out his own bedding, pillows, blankets. Maybe his favorite hero… make him excited to have his own stuff he picked to sleep with. Just gotta try different things, eventually something will work. Good luck mama.

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Keep putting him back in his bed don’t cave and let him get in the bed it will take a sometime but eventually he will try and make the room more comfortable night light maybe a new stuffed animal to snuggle I had a little issue with my youngest daughter but she eventually got used to the new routine

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Consistency :slight_smile: when he wakes up keep putting him back in his own bed. its tiring at first but he will eventually get used to being in his bed and sleep through the night. at least that was my experience with my son

Lie down with him in his own bed until he falls asleep. He needs that comfort, don’t send him to go fall asleep alone etc…you’ve been together all his life, so make the change a gradual one, during the day speak to him about how big and brave he is to sleep in his own bed and proud you are of him. Speak positivity into him to a point where he will no longer need to come to your bed. All the best

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I had to spend a few nights with my son in his bed. I’d settle him in there, go to my own bed once he was asleep and if he woke in the night I would just climb in his bed with him. It does take a bit of time, but now my son sleeps most nights in his bed alone… he just still needs cuddles to sleep - which is more than fine!

I’m not proud of this but I used a bit of bribing… my son always sleeps in his room but was starting to wake up in the middle of the night every night which left me exhausted. I told him that if he slept all night in his room, I would take him to get donuts as a reward. a week went by with him eating a donut every day and I got sleep! whoohoo! now, he asks for a reward and I explain to him that he cannot have donuts everyday but that I was very proud of him and that we can get donuts on friday before school/daycare.

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