How can I get my toddler to sleep through the night?

My two-year-old doesn’t sleep through the night. I admit I rocked him to sleep for the first year and a half. But I feel that doesn’t really matter, like my husband keeps saying. He’s had a handful of nights in his life he slept through the night (4ish) and I’ve rocked him on those nights. I have him in his own toddler bed for the last few months. We have recently moved, but I feel since he doesn’t really sleep anyways that that hasn’t impacted him much. I have tried staying with him rubbing his back, and leaving when he falls asleep. I stay with him (I sleep on the floor) most nights, so he will sleep and me. Some nights he’s up at least three times. Some nights it’s every hour. We got him a sound machine since our house is crazy quite, and I wasn’t sleeping when I was in his room. When he wakes is always yelling, “Mom”. This mom is exhausted and I don’t know what to do.

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Does he take naps? I just let my daughter sleep with me. Sleep was more important to me. An sleeps in her own bed now

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Try rocking him again?

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My 2.5 year old still wakes up throughout the night. And she sleeps in bed with us. When she stays with my mom, she sleeps in her own bed and sleeps all night. Idk what the deal is. It’s going to be rough cause baby #2 is coming in July :woman_facepalming:t2:

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Following cuz i have the same dang problem!!! She can go without naps and still wake up during the night.

Co-sleep, you all might get some rest

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Try giving him a warm bath before bed time, make the room nice an warm. Hopefully this helps you.

Get him to sleep leave the room. Keep doing this. I had to do it with my granddaughter when she was like 3yrs.old. when I talked her doctor about it. She said its completely normal till get few yrs older. If napping try cutting them out.

Weighted blanket!!! Was a total game changer for my kiddo!! Was up 4bto 5 times a night awake by 5am now sleeps thro the night not up till i wake him at 7! 3lb one so nothing crazy heavy!

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I know a lot of people are against it, but we used it as a last resort when we were in the same situation. Melatonin. I talked to my son’s pediatrician about it and he said that up to 1 mL is completely safe. It has helped him fall asleep and stay asleep.

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My husband doesn’t even sleep through the night :woman_shrugging:t2:

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My boy will be 3 in April and he does the same thing! I know how exhausted you are and I know the struggle mama, you are not alone! My son still doesn’t sleep through the night and neither does his 7 month old sister, even as I type this it’s 10:55, I just started to dose off and they are both up now​:sob:. I have tried everything; setting a routine, music, laying with him, he even gets up if I let him in bed with me, I also give him melatonin. Nothing helps. I think hes just one of those people that don’t need a lot of sleep to function. The only thing that helps me is knowing that eventually, in a few years, he will understand that he doesn’t need me in the middle of the night and he can be up without me. Its kinda sad but I know this extreme exhaustion is a limited time thing. I mean he can’t be 18 and still waking me up right?:sweat_smile:

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I’m sorry. I’m going to be 44, and I haven’t slept through the night more than probably a couple dozen times. My mom said I didn’t sleep through the night until I was 3, but I really just stopped waking her up. Your best bet is to teach him to put himself back to sleep. If his needs are met, not wet, not hungry, not too hot or cold, not in pain, “its time for sleep. Mommy needs to sleep if you need me, I am here, but mommy needs to go back to sleep.” Give him something small to play with and kisses and good night.

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A comfort item that smells like you might help :blush:

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my almost 3 year old used to wake up wanting milk. i finally told her no a couple nights and she quit waking me up asking for it. ??

You can try Camomile tea. some other foods that promote sleep like tart cherry juice, you can mix that with tea, or mix the tea juice some frozen fruit and yougart and make ice pops or smoothies.
Other foods that promote sleep are oatmeal, bananas, turky, kiwi, fatty fish, white rice, and even melon to help stay hydrated that also help aid in sleep.

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Maybe a bath with lavender oil and put some on their pillow

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MELATONIN! I completely judged this idea at first for my two year old but once her pediatrician recommended it and reassured me that it’s natural and non habit forming we tried it and I’m so glad. The truth is two year olds are so intellectually overwhelmed, it affects sleep, the melatonin just helps.

We use zarbees gummies. It says for ages 3+ so we just give her a half of one and she stays asleep all night.

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I agree . Let him sleep with you and y’all will both get some rest .

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Idk why everyone shames other moms for the way they love their babies. I rock my 20 month old son to relax him for 15-20 minutes every night then lay him down. He moves around and gets all comfy and he sleeps through the night. People always think there way is best. He has slept through the night since just before his first birthday.

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