How can I get my toddler to sleep through the night?

My son is 19 months old and has started waking up in the middle of the night, and IDK what else to do; we try not to put him to bed before 8 or 9. When he comes into the room, he refuses to lay down with us, I can take him back to his room and try putting him back to sleep, and he will go to sleep but gets right back up, BUT if I lay down on the couch, he will lay next to me and go to sleep. I will be talking to his doctor about this as well, but I was wondering if anyone else had to deal with this before!? Is this just a normal thing? Could it be from him teething? Could it be a security reason? How did you break your child of it? I have so many questions, and I really need some answers, iv been told it’s just going to get worse, and I’m worried about that because since this has started, my depression has gotten bad again because I am so tired (I do have a doctors appointment Wednesday to help me increase my meds for depression), my husband does what he can to help but since he is the one who works and does a lot of driving I need him to get rest at night so he isn’t messing up at work or falling asleep behind the wheel.

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He’s probably getting his canine teeth in which is causing a sleep regression. I gave it and let the kid have a pacifier back or something he can chew on when it’s time to go to sleep. But mine kinda knows what pain is so when he signals that he’s hurting we give him Tylenol on the clock for a day. It’s just not fair to me to let him suffer it out

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I had the exact same problem. Two things that worked for us (eventually) we’re to 1) use a small dose of melatonin. This helped him to fall asleep and stay asleep. And 2) let him cry it out. We eventually baby proofed the door knob so he could no longer let himself out of his room. That was the hardest, but it only lasted a couple nights. He eventually knew that he was not getting out and tired and his bed was more comfortable than the floor of his room and went back to bed.

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Sleeping through the night is Not something that can be taught. Unfortunately it’s biologically normal for some children just not to , my now 3 yo slept through the night from 6 months to 1.5 ish and has been waking up in the middle of the night ever since & has just now started to sleep through again. I know it’s hard as hellll but it doesn’t left forever

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I would try putting him to bed at 7-7:30

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I would :sparkles:suggest​:sparkles: small amount of melatonin and trying an earlier bed time. Good luck momma you got this :two_hearts: (Let me edit my comment to a SUGGESTION before anyone else decides to cause problems) 🤦

Put him back in the crib tell him night night and walk away. On the third time he gets up put him back in his crib say nothing. It worked for my kids.

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Talk to your dr about what a good dose of melatonin would be him. Medicine goes by weight with some exceptions. My sons are 4 and 7. My oldest is epileptic. He got to the point he would only sleep 3-4 hours when he was 5 yrs old and so we put him on melatonin. He still wasn’t sleeping and started having seizures due to being tired. His DR (who ok’d it with his neurologist) put him on Clonidine at night along with 3mg of melatonin. That works well for him. We recently just did this with our 4yr old. He was only sleeping 2-3 hours then would get up and eat food, destroy his room, and even attempted to run out the door (luckily I have alarms on all doors and that night I fell asleep in my recliner so the door opening wakes me up. My 4yr old was known as he little Houdini at work. He broke all of their door knob locks. The baby gate and they even had a latch that was at the top of the door and he learned how to jerk open the door just right to break it lol. Thank god he’s gotten better now and if he wakes up he will either crawl in bed with dad or wake me up. Your babe might be teething so maybe try some Motrin before bed? Maybe the teething pain is waking her up at night. Definitely go to your dr and see what your options are. Your baby needs sleep too.

He could be going through the 18 month sleep regression. It can come early or late. It will pass. It’s so frustrating tho lol my daughter does stuff like that when she has regressions and it’s really hard but they always get through it

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What is it with melatonin he’s just a baby going through another stage not all children sleep through the night, just be patient

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When he gets up at night …do not speak to him .just march him back to bed. Tucking him in. For the first week you might have to do it a number of times a night for a few nights but it will stop and he’ll stay in bed . Do not cuddle him do NOT give him any attention.

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The wonder weeks app tells you about what time kids and babies have sleep regression. It is completely normal. Like other people have suggested tho if it doesn’t follow the regressions I would definitely ask their pediatrician about melatonin.

I found with my daughter that if she had a nap during the day and went to bed around 7pm at night she slept through till 6am.

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Just put a bed in baby’s room and you can lie down with him then transfer back to bed .

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So for my son he wouldn’t sleep at all! He could stay awake till 3-5am and be up at 8 it turned out his tonsils and adenoids were swollen and he needed them removed

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Sounds wery normal. You’re child follows he’s instincts. Maby it’s hot, lonely, he has a dream or is teething. Kids have always som whery important developmental phase going on. Usually it affects the sleeping.

Sleeping next to you is for him the safest place in the world. He gets love and falls fast asleep again.

Maby you could carry him back to his bed when hees asleep again? If you sleep better in you’re bed?

This is a phase. It too shall pass. Stay strong.

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Does he cry when he wakes up? If not, let him play on his bed when he does. He will get used to the idea of sleeping by himself without you. Alternatively, try keeping him up late, say, until 10pm then let him fall asleep by himself without having to put him to bed.

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