How can I get the point across to my family that I do not want them kidding on my child?

Since before my daughter was even born, I’ve asked people not to kiss my child and made it clear that I didn’t want people kissing her. She is almost 3, and people have run over the top of me and never respected that. Out of fear of causing family conflict and hurting feelings, I have overlooked this issue for so long, but with Covid coming to its peak in our area, I’m starting to worry more and more…and honestly, I’m just tired of people blatantly disrespecting me in my face knowing they know how I feel…how can I get the point across to family and especially in-laws that I don’t and won’t allow them to kiss her or ask for kisses? I’ve politely reminded in-person & also shared posts on FB hoping people will take the hint.

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Honestly just sounds like your gonna have to say it bluntly if their straight not listening too you! “ I understand you love my daughter but i DO NOT want you kissing her! Please respect my wishes! “

Stop being polite :woman_shrugging:t3: obviously that isn’t working.

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Tell them point blank If you keep kissing my kid after I said it isn’t allowed than you are not allowed to see her anymore. Some people act like you aren’t serious until you snap then they play innocent.

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Sometimes you just have to hurt some feelings and tell folks exactly what’s what…if they wanna be mad thats on them but you gotta protect you and yours.

I am just wondering why this is. A stranger I can see. Why family?

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In my opinion, at 3 it should be up to your daughter. It’s never to young to teach her she is in control of her body and it’s her choice if she wants affection or not.

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Well honestly… if you’re that worried about covid, why are you going and taking her around everyone anyway? I mean i get they should respect your wishes, but you must not be that worried about covid if you’re around them

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A kiss on the forehead. But mouth is a big no no!

If they aren’t baby sitting her, then may fewer visits

Stop letting them run you over :woman_facepalming:t2: “I have overlooked the issue” means that you’ve been letting them get away with behavior that you aren’t comfortable with. Unless you blatantly tell them not to kiss your child and put your foot down, then they aren’t going to take you seriously.

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I understand now with covid. But why not before? Like no type of kisses? Forehead, cheeks nothing??

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Be upfront, say she’s your daughter and you’re sick of being ignored. It’s not a joke and you really don’t want anyone kissing her. Then let them know that if anyone disobeys your wishes again you’ll cut contact with them :woman_shrugging:t3:

I once told people if you don’t listen to me and respect my parenting I will not have my children around you… It worked.

I’d be saying you either respect my decision as a parent for you to not kiss my child or you won’t be around

Step in between your child and the adult. Explain to the child (if old enough to understand) kisses causes causes germs and could make ppl sick. Teach them to say NNNOOOOOO! Don’t worry about hurt feelings. Your child comes before their butt hurt.

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Be as firm and blunt as you can be. That’s your child. Who cares if they end up getting butt hurt.

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I agree that you are being rediculous. Why are you so paranoid? You can use COVID as the excuse but this attitude started before COVID. We’re you abused? I think you need to look at your own issues!

You are the mom. STOP THEM!! STOP THEM!! STOP THEM!! THEY WILL ONLY GO AS FAR AS YOU ALLOW THEM TO!! BE A BITCH IF NEED BE, BUT STOP THEM!! Lord, some people.

your weird. unless there is something about your family members or are you talking about the virus. raising a howie mandell.

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Loud and Proud, f their feelings if they are that slow

K first of all - forget feelings. The answer is no !

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