How can I go about getting my stuff from my husband?

My still current husband and I have been separated for a little over a year now, and we lived in an apartment when I caught him cheating on me once we both moved out of the apartment I had to go live with a friend with our child, so I had dropped off some of our daughter’s toys bc I didn’t have enough room where I was staying. Well, i now have enough room to take back what I had him stored in his house. The problem is though is he won’t answer me back when I call or text him. I think its bc he has a new girlfriend. I have made multiple attempts to call him and try to get in contact with him, but nothing has worked. My question is, how should I go about getting her stuff back from him. Should I get the police involved, or should I just go over there, but then also his girlfriend doesn’t like me much since we were all in high school together, and she bullied me a lot, so I don’t want to get into a fight as well.

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Pick your battles. Are toys worth s confrontation. You have to decide whether to draw a line or its best to let go

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Why not just let it go
I mean i would not get myself in all this at all

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Let it go and get your baby what you can. Opening Pandora’s Box never ends well. Let sleeping dogs lie. Best advice I ever got from a lawyer.

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Buy her new things. If he’s going to be that petty I’d stop calling him period.

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I’d let it go and buy new stuff. It’s not worth the headache and drama. SINCE He’s not having anything to do with your daughter I hope you have him on CS. Use that to take her new toy shopping and pick out what she wants.

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Not worth the battle hun honestly …pick them wisely i have been in your position and the toys arent worth it

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It’s been a year and you have not needed them regardless of space. I would let it go.

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Police I learned can’t get involved with who owns what because that’s for a judge to decide. That’s what I was told when my ex husband wouldn’t let me take anything. Good luck.

There is a third option…forget about the toys! If you’ve gone a year without them then you dont need them. Are you sure this isnt just an excuse to inject yourself into his life a year later?
Buy new toys.

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I took my daughter, our clothes, my car and left everything to him. Everything else can be replaced unless it a family heirloom. Then I can understand.

Do not go without police😂 to avoid com

Take the police to pu baby girls stuff so it is calm and you can get in and out

If your going to show up at his place, bring the police with you for a witness. Secondly, do you really need those toys? If it’s been a year, I would leave it & buy the stuff over again. Not worth the stress of having to deal with him, if he’s leaving you alone that’s probably the best

You’re married. Cops won’t get involved. Even if it’s your daughters things, what’s yours is his. You haven’t needed it in a year, but new things.

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It’s just stuff. Replace it

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All material things that can be replaced. It’s not worth the energy dealing with him and his petty girlfriend. Leave everything and let go. Buy new things to create memories with. Your peace of mind and mental health are worth so much more especially for your daughter.

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I’m sorry…don’t mean to sound bad but rule #1 is…when you split- take your shit. Good luck…I definately would not go over there alone…be safe

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It will bother him more once you stop calling him right now he feels like he has you over a barrel because he has something you want but it really isn’t worth it if it’s been close to year your baby has out grown the things any way but stop calling texting no communication at all just show him you don’t need him make him wonder what’s going on you will win way more by letting go

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Probably better off letting it go. Price of inconvenience is too high. Not worth it. Move on.

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