How can I help my child understand I am having another baby?

I just found out that I am 10 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child, my husband’s 6th. Our 4 yr old is used to pretty much being the center of attention, his siblings are not out here all of the time. I’m trying to find away to help him accept that he is going to be a big brother. Any tips?

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He’ll adjust don’t worry, just tell him he’ll big a brother. You’re overthinking it.

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There’s 4 and a half years between my girls. I told my daughter the day before lol she was very excited to be mommy’s big helper. She loved sitting in the floor talking to her sister while I made bottles. They adjust quickly! No worries

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If you are really worried about how to get him really excited to be a big brother, explain to him how important and special being a big brother is. Try to include him in things such as ultrasound visits (if allowed due to covid) and allow him to pick out special items for the baby like toys or outfits.

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I’m in the same boat as you lol. I am going to be 11 weeks tomorrow and I’ve tried to explain to my 3 year old about his new sibling but I just don’t think he is understanding lol. I think he sorta knows that I’m having a baby because when I say “Damien, where’s baby?” he will put his hand on my belly and say baby. I’m sure that when the baby is born he will be a great big brother! Try not to overthink or stress about it. Good luck :sparkling_heart:

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I’m pregnant with my third. My oldest is 13 and my youngest is four.
I just told him I had a baby in my belly and he was going to be a big brother. He had already been asking for a sibling so he was really excited! I didn’t tell him I was pregnant until I was 20 weeks and knew the gender. I didn’t want to tell him too soon in case something went wrong and 40 weeks is a long time for a four year old to wait lol. At four years old he is old enough to understand, so whenever you’re ready just tell him. I wouldn’t wait until the last minute to tell him because you do want him to have time to get ready and adjust. Good luck

I just told my 4 year old that shes going to have a little brother or sister and she said “no”. Nothing more. Just “no” :joy: what am i supposed to do with that?

When mine was 7 years old I had my 2nd child I did everything then bout a month after he was a month old the only thing that work for me was I encourage her to help bottle feed him and do stuff for my 2nd child that was her brother now he is 14 and she is 20 and they are so close to each other u can’t get a pen between them they love each other they are close I was blessed with mine ty god

When I was expecting my 2nd baby my 1st born was already 5yrs old. I found a great book called"I’m a big brother" I believe. After reading the book everyday my oldest said he knows how to be the best big brother and became so excited

Bring him into everything you do for the new baby and have him “help” when you get clothes or diapers or burp rags or anything show him let him touch it and let him help you put things away when you go to pack your hospital bag have him help definitely get a baby doll cause after the baby is here he could mimic what your doing with the baby I have 5 kids under the age of 8 and this worked every time

Tell him he will be a big helper. They like that :slightly_smiling_face:

Explain to them and I’d get a baby doll asap and pretend like it’s a real one so they’ll be used to the dynamics of the change that will occur

I told my 4 year old that she was getting a baby brother or sister (she turned 5 when i was 2 months along ) . we answered all of her questions . her baby brother is now 2.5 months and she adores him. It did come pretty much naturally for her. Include him in as much as you can, show ultrasound pics, that he’ll be a big brother etc

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It will be good for him. You are making him a big brother! He can teach this child things. What a positive thing.

Let him know the baby is his and he well need to help care for him/her. As the baby moves let him feel the kicks. Have him talk and sing to the baby before birth. Include him in picking out things for the baby and share the ultrasound pictures.

He will just get used to it. Same situation for my daughter. She had some problems having to share mommy but she is getting used to it and adores her brother

Give it time. 4 year olds don’t always understand abstract concepts. Just keep talking positively about what a big helper and good big brother he will be.

Let him be a part of all of it. My son would use the dopplar to listen to his sissy all the time, he picked out her first outfit, helped pick her name, read lots of books about becoming a big brother.

When I was pregnant youngest one, we had a daughter who was 5, going on 6. We let her make the announcements. First she started with a baby, then she said she was getting a brother and sister. (There was only one) At one point a close family member was getting her to up the number. She told people I was having 8. Lol.

Give your child as much attention or more than the baby. Baby sleeps alot at first. Do crafts together etc. Read big brother a book while you feed the baby. Sing songs when baby is changed or getting a bath.