How can I help my dad with his drug addiction?

I usually am not one to do this, but I am at an absolute loss. My dad is 47 years old, and he is in so deep with drug addiction, he has had a hard life, but you would never guess it when you meet him he has the biggest heart and would literally give the shirt off his back to help someone he’s my best friend, but he’s been on a downward spiral for the last couple of years. He’s currently incarcerated myself, and my family members have decided to stop bailing him out. My question is if anyone had dealt with a loved one who is struggling with addiction and if them being in jail helped them or steps, I could take to help him. I’m so scared I will lose him forever to this addiction.

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You can’t. He has to take that step himself or it won’t work.

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The sad truth? You can’t.

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If he’s in jail you know he’s not doing the drugs,and if he stays in there long enough then they will get out of his system, then it’s up to him.

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I’m dealing with the same thing my sister had been in jail for the last 6 months and she seems like a total different person I think that it was good because it gave her time to sober up and realize what was important and when she gets out I’ll be there every step of the way to help her stay clean but I know she will have to do it herself I just hope she had enough time that she will stay off drugs when she gets out good luck to you and I hope it works out

I know it’s hard to watch someone you love self destruct. But like most of the other ladies are saying, you can’t help a drug addict get on the right track until they want to. Trust me, I know it first hand

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Detox then Rehab for 3 Months

I’m praying for you. I am a mother of 2 boys that have a addict father. And speaking from experience. We have tried all we possibly could do to help him. He was and still is in denial even after he lost his girlfriend to a overdose. There’s no amount of love that can over take the addiction. It has to be his love and want to be sober and only he can do it!! I strongly recommend you looking into al-Anon. It’s an amazing support group to help you through this!! Sending so many prayers

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All you can do is ask God to deliver him from addiction

you would be shocked as to what they can get their hands on in jail , there are plenty of drugs inside…and you can’t do anything for him…i stood by and supported my ex for numerous stays in jail, he got out and went right back to it…10 years wasted…your dad has to be the one that wants help

Everything they’ve said is true… He’s probably sitting there plotting how he’s going to get high as soon as he gets out … I’m clean 30 years now & he needs to want it or it won’t happen… Everybody’s bottom is different… God bless honey I hope he finds his way back :pray:

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You can’t work harder than him to help him get clean. He has to want it and be willing to do the work to get there.

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It helped my family member until he got out. Didn’t take long for him to slip back into it

Leave him in jail and hopefully you can convince him to seek help while he’s there and continue when he gets out. Offer to attend meetings with him, go to appts with him, church if that’s his thing. Just be there for him when he’s willing to be there for himself, but if he’s not willing you’ll never be able to force him to get help by helping him stay in his addiction, you’ll have to walk away if he won’t help himself.

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My brother has had a heroin addiction for roughly 10 years. He’s been in and out of prison, hes currently in prison again. He’s missed his kids growing up, our mom is dying and she probably wont make it to his release date. You cannot help someone that’s not ready to get help. He has to confront what’s deeper within that causes him to use. My brother is currently in mental health and group therapy and had a grasp on his issues that he tried to numb by using. The only thing you can do is be there, but dont enable.

Maybe he’s hit bottom now . Has he ever been in a 12 step program ? You could give him some literature to read while he is incarcerated about staying clean . Also tell him it is up to him to decide to stay clean and that the rest of you do not want that nonsense in your lives otherwise . Stay strong .

You really can’t. He has to want to be helped. He has to realize that he’s hit rock bottom. It’s a very hard road to go down. Don’t bail him out. But generally speaking, being locked up only helps temporarily. Good luck. Hugs and love for you.

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He has to want to help himself first before anyone else can help him

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Your dad will have to want to get
off the drugs and stay off. No matter what ultimatum you give him, how hard you love him, it’s up to him. All you can do is love him for afar and hope for the best. The best thing you can do for him is not enable him.

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my dad had a back surgry in the 2000 and nothing ever worked and he was eating prescription pills like it was candy. i begged him to stop but he never did he weighed 360.00 (healthy) know he is 200 and in jail on his way to possibly prison. i had to cut off contact completely because of his continus actions. i wish you the best with everything