How can I help my daughter while she goes through puberty?

My daughter turned 9 in September. She is showing signs of puberty. She has breast buds, and honestly, I don’t know when it started. They are little. However, it’s obvious if you are trying to notice. Also, she has a UTI and she was changing in front of me. I noticed she has hair down there. She has also been so moody. I feel like she is so young! Does anyone know what I can do to support her? Tips, advice… anything! This is so new for me, when it comes to supporting her. When it came to my own childhood, I didn’t have a lot of support and I had to figure it out on my own. I don’t want it to be like that for her.

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I was 9 when I gotten my period my kid is 5 so she has time

I bought my daughter the American girl book "the care and keeping of you ". Very informative but on their level

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Just have the talk with her. I started my period at 10, during school and knew exactly what was happening because my mom took the time to sit down explain and explain everything that was going to happen to my body. I wasn’t freaked out or anything. Communication is key

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Five below has a book maybe you can read it with her it talk about going through puberty

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Honestly 9 years old is the average for little girls to start a period now a days, mine started when she was 8. Just sit down and have a talk with her about what is going to happen and how to be prepared. Also the do’s and don’ts of when she starts. I made an emergency kit (a small clear make-up bag that had a pair of clean underwear, pads, flushable wipes and stuff like that in it) for my daughter to put in her back pack incase she started while at school. Don’t make it a huge deal, just explain to her that its a normal thing that all women go through.

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I also started when I was 10. Just inform and support her !

My little one is 8 and started. Schedule an appt with her pediatrician and they may send her to a specialist. I also had her watch a video online about it. I noticed she was developing quickly and I’m glad I did it before it started.

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Open communication. I find making sure my kids are knowledgeable about things that will happen to their body and they know I’m always there to listen. Also teaching them through the years how to take care of themself is really important. Moodiness? Hide in your room away from her hahah

Get a her a “go to box” ready. Pads, liners, soaps, maybe make up or smell good stuff. Just so even when she feels at her lowest with all the hormones she doesn’t have to feel overwhelmed. And make sure you explain to her why its happening and how to properly take care of herself so she doesn’t get sick.

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I’m very open with my daughter. She’s also 9 and I know puberty is on the way. I’ve had the talk with. I explained everything that happens and why. I told her she can come to me or her daddy if she needs anything.

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Get her a padded training bra so she can get use to the bra and her nipples don’t poke through her shirts. I had b cups at 10.

I always made it a point to be very open with my daughter. She watched me change pads and had showers and baths with me until a certain age but it gave me the opportunity to explain when she asked about my girly parts and it paid off.
As for mood wings just let her know that it okay to have bad moments and days but not to feed into them. Your a good mama for seeking any kind of advice … girls are not easy!!!

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Training bra, maybe a care pack (pads, extra underwear) for if she gets her period at school. Don’t show your awkwardness or feelings of distress and just have a talk to her about what’s happening use a book as someone suggested leave it with her to read also.

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It can still take a couple years for it to start.

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Have a talk with her explain whats going to happen and that she needs to start carrying extra things with her for just in case she isnt home … our daughter started in 5th grade and the day she started she called me I went and got her from school and we kind of had a little bit of a girls day and told her it was nothing to be ashamed of and start buying her training bras

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They have puberty books out for teenagers and adults tht need the talk w kids. I believe their called soup books for teenagers etc… They have a bunch w tht title. Tht will help u too. But american girl books helped my daughter too. They have all different levels. First stage then as they get older .

Get a pack of girls sports tanks from Walmart

My pediatrician gave me the book “Let’s talk about Sex” when my daughter started puberty a few years ago. It was very informative and helped guide the conversations moving forward.

I got pregnant at 15. I think talking to her about caring for her body how important it is not to let any boy do anything intimate even kissing. And probably teach her the best you can about being a woman and taking care of herself.

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