How can I help my husband have a gentler approach toward parenting?

What do you do when your husband is parenting all wrong? He’s a great guy, don’t get me wrong, but he’s exhausted and short-tempered, and he won’t hear me. Our son is just under two, and my husband has been home for 20 minutes and is already yelling at him for being a toddler. (He ripped a page on the book they were reading). How can I change his behavior? And explain to him that he is reacting in the same way to the same reactions he is telling at our toddler for? Our son doesn’t want anything to do with him, and this is why…it breaks my heart, but he is causing their relationship to be negative.

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Go to a marriage counselor, but be prepared to remove yourself and the child from your husband if he doesn’t change. His behavior will have long term, permanent implications on your child if he doesn’t stop. The counseling will give you a neutral platform to express your concerns and explain your wants for change to your husband. It will also help him work through any issues causing his behavior. Also, consistent “instead of that, try this” when your husband does something that you don’t like such as yelling at the toddler.

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Praise him when he does it better.

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Role model patience, positive discipline and read books together on parenting techniques. Also review what you can expect from your child at various ages. Your journey of parenting has really just begun so this is something you want to address as soon as possible. Good luck…

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have you talked to him extensively about your parenting ideals? if you have and he’s still doing this stuff, he either doesn’t care or he is genuinely struggling to control his temper. you’ll have to figure out which one it is and proceed accordingly.

Your husband is an abuser. Get him help. If he won’t take it, leave for the sake of your child.

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He can’t expect adult behaviour from a two year old. He can’t expect your son to regulate his emotions when he can’t even control his own. T R A S H

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There are many useful books and online courses to sign up to which reinforces the principles around positive parenting. I would suggest your husband to sign up to one of those.
I am sure he feels bad every time he yells and acts the way he does but he needs help to snap out of this habit sooner than later. Unfortunately, when we yell at our kids we are actually teaching them that yelling is okay, soon that child might yell at you and express his/her frustration in all the wrong ways and it’s much harder to reverse that than to put a stop to it now.

This!! Nearly every other man on earth!!! Lord!! Somebody needs to tame most of them down!!! Lol!!!

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Can you record his outburst on your phone and show it to him when he is not in an angry mood? Maybe if he could see himself then he would want to get some help with his parenting.

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Maybe try recording him yelling at his kid. He obviously isn’t listening to what your trying to tell him but maybe if he sees it for himself he’ll understand. If it was me I would probs leave my partner to get it through his thick skull that his parenting is hurting his kid emotionally. Even if just temporarily.

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I would look at his relationship with his own father. That can tell you a lot about parenting style . My ex husband always treated my girls better than my son and the rules were always different for him and was the ultimate reason for our divorce. It definitely does long term damage . Therapy, recording all helps but only if he admits his behavior is wrong .
Good luck

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My husband is the same way he yells at the kids for every little thing and he doesn’t realize that hes driving a wedge between him and the kids they despise him

I would watch this situation closely. I’m not saying it will, but can become physically abusive. Stress , exhaustion, etc. can go bad fast.

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He sounds like an idiot!

My ex was horrid to our son. Emotionally and mentally, that’s why hes an ex

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My husband was like that he didnt know hw to deal with small children literally. I just used to tell him listen up thats too much theyr small and still learning were teaching them hw to react to things. He just neva cud deal with them. Now that theyr older hes doing much better actually spends time with tgem and has conversations thers no more irritation etc. I chalk it up to hw his pa was with him wen he was small too. Xplain to him and keep doing so if u must. The kids must learn right. And maybe just maybe itl get better as they get older. Goodluk.

It wud b great if men wud listen but theyr so stubborn all the time.

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Have you tried explaining another way to him of handling the situation, sit down and have a good talk about how he could handle it differently x

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Following. I’m in the same situation but I’m dealing with teenagers :frowning:

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