My son dates a lovely girl. Her home life is not the greatest, and she spends a lot of time here at my home, and I don’t mind. Over the last two months, I noticed a change in her appearance and asked my son if she was ok. He told me what was going on in her home and how she started suffering from anxiety which now has turned into purging. She eats here, and I have never heard her purging. Today I asked if she was ok and she told me about her home and her purging. She explained she has talked with her Dr and is working at getting a therapist. I told her the fact that she is admitting she has a problem and is seeking help is a great first step. I told her I’m here for her whenever she needs to talk. But what can I do to help more?
That’s it. Just being a support person for her and being open for her to come to. Stay open with her, ask if she needs any help with anything from time to time, but otherwise I think you’ve done perfectly
I think you help, it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, you helped by being there for her and good for you momma!
Just be supportive and make sure when she comes over you have healthy foods for to her to eat and encourage working out as a family that will help with a lot her anxiety and depression that is leading to the purging. Encourage her to pick up a hobby maybe help her with finding creative ideas.
Maybe offer to go to her Dr appt with her if her home life is bad, she may feel more comfortable/safe with you in there too! But just letting her know you are there for her is huge
Just be there for her and honestly it sounds like you have done a great job there she trusts you to talk to you xx
Just support her, remember the help has to come from a licensed doctor.
I’m very glad this young lady has you to give her support. Just keep being that person she can feel safe with. Best wishes for everyone.
You are such an amazing woman for helping this young girl!!!
Just keep doing what your doing, be there for her and let her talk to you, she sounds like she needs that motherly figure, though you do need to respect the fact that she isnt your kid and you cant tell her what to do and when to do it, just guide her to do it, also when she does eat at yours if you are able try and make it as nutritional as possible so shes at least getting the good stuff
Always be that soft place to fall. No judgement but firm support to get the help she needs. Maybe make some calls and gather information to help the process move a bit fast. Hug her tight always!!
Bless your soul and family.
Just be her support!
That’s it. Support her. You never know what the parents side of what is going on in their home is. Hug her and support her but don’t interfere with another parent unless shes in harm.
Be safe space, sounds like she knows what’s up , she will need a place to be open and accepted . Tell her you are here if she needs help and be patient. If you have younger children ask that’s she respects that and not to model that for them ( I am sure she would not but ) .
It honestly sounds like you are doing exactly what she needs. Be that safe space for her
First of all thank you for being a positive caring adult in her life. Try to encourage her to talk to her doctor and just be there for her. You are making a difference by being in her life.
Just continue to let her know u are there for her and she can come to you and u will be there for her …just let her know she can trust you …
Being there and letting her know is the biggest help!! Your home (your son and you included) are her safe place. Don’t push her to tell you everything, just be there when she needs you.
Support her and be there her therapist will probably provide exercises that are good for her mind and you can offer to help her practice those if she wants and if she’s able to be out of the home for a while with out her family being upset let her be in a more positive environment as much as possible