How can I offer someone car seat advice?

Hello, my boyfriends brother and brothers fiancé have our nephew forward facing at 8 months as well as wearing thick bodysuits which doesn’t follow safety guidelines as well. They also keep the straps loose so as not to “hurt him”. Can you mamas help me on how to address this with them in a way that doesn’t sound like I am parent shaming? Car seat safety isn’t a parenting choice and they definitely think it is.

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Physically show them what is wrong. Educate them on proper car seat safety.

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Just tell them and be honest. I straight told someone they are gonna be the reason the kid dies if ever in a car crash to get it through their head.

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Print out your states guidelines and hand it to them and change the seat yourself. Grow a pair.

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So, let your BOYFRIEND know how serious it is and to let him know to make sure they are following the guidelines of your state, for his nephew.

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There isn’t a single state where an 8 month old can legally be forward facing. They’re breaking the law. Inform them of that, and why it’s law in the first place.

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Pull up a few test dummy videos

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Um it’s supposed to rear facing til 18 months or longer. Cops can be called on this. They are suppose to be tight but not to right. It’s for safety.

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Are they willing to accept the information? If not… Unfortunately, you’re just wasting your time and energy :disappointed: i wish it wasn’t that way.

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I fight with my child’s father about this at least we have rear facing til after 2 yrs

Straight up tell them that if they get into a wreck, they are at fault if something happens to their child.

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They can turn him around at 1 if there’s no law where you guys live for rear facing

Show them the info…Anything after that is on them and if you continue to push it will likely get ugly🤷‍♀️ All you can do is ATTEMPT to educate because at the end of the day ppl are going to do what they want to do

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Don’t do it publicly like half these people do online. Which is why they get soo much backlash. Because people get embarrassed.
Maybe pull them off to the side the next time you see them and offer your advice. Send them a PRIVATE message.
Give them a number to the fire station and see if there is somebody there would could guide them in the right direction:)

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I mean u can mention it but dont get to nosy. Some ppl dont listen . And calling cps will just make u on the fuck you list , stay from me list for most ppl. Mention it like did u know and leave it be. Tell her u know there the parent and arent there to be pushy rude or judgy or change there parenting

Just tell them it’s illegal and they can get into a lot of trouble if pulled over or their baby could get hurt in an accident

First start by addressing the issue with how much you LOVE EVERYONE, but you are just concerned with your nephews safety and then gently tell them why. Show them some videos of child seat safety. I have 4 grown children. But I did not realize you are not supposed to put them in their car seats with big puffy jackets on. I didn’t realize why until my daughter showed me a video. Also at forward facing, ESPECIALLY at that young age could be VERY SERIOUS in an accident. My grandchildren were not allowed to forward face until age 3 meeting HEIGHT AND WEIGHT restrictions. It’s definitely better to address the issue BEFORE something happens and it’s too late. Then you will be kicking yourself in the ass for not saying something. Please say something, ANYTHING, to try and get them to understand how very IMPORTANT it is to follow the guidelines.

I pmed someone about them putting their daughter in an infant carrier front facing. She said she couldn’t afford a front facing seat so I found some cheap options for her that would still keep her daughter safe. She thanked me.

I mean if they don’t want to be educated then this is also illegal in most areas

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Send them the link to the crash testing, and be like, woah have you guys seen this, scary ae!, fastest way to show them the dangers, easy to ignore things on paper, very hard to ignore videos.

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