How can I stop myself from yelling at my children so much?

Any advice on yelling? I was told I yell at my child all the time. I don’t feel like I do all the time, but it is more than I’d like. I yell when I tell my child to stop doing something or to do something, and they don’t listen. I say over and over again. But I try not to yell. But after hours of not listening, I get mad and yell. It seems to be the only way to get my child to listen to me. Gezzzzz. So any advice in how to get my child to listen without yelling?

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Count to ten before responding

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see if anything in this article resonates with you:

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Get down to their eye level and calmly talk about what needs done

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Not listening. Sit in solitude with nothing.

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Following I have the same problem

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That’s a hard one, because our kids are so used to us mom’s 24/7 the 2nd we get on to them, and then we play will them shortly after and all. They don’t understand, vs someone who isn’t around all the time getting onto them then it’s different. Our kids are comfortable with us and think they cna do whatever, believe me I cna yell at my kid all day, or be sweet with him and he won’t listen. But the 2nd his dad or someone else gets into him he stops immediately, might have to be told a few times. But he’ll listen and the first person he runs to is me, and I turn around to walk off and tell him no.

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I’m a shouter too sometimes don’t realise I am and how loud I am my kids know it’s just the way I talk n roll their eyes n don’t listen anyway ur not alone honestly I have been trying to learn how to lower my tone and stop and think does it actually work try sitting down chatting with them instead I’ve realised it works a lot better xx

Same boat mama. :heartpulse: I swear they don’t listen until I lose it.

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My fuse was getting shorter and shorter. Spoke to my dr, got put on some meds and I am much more calmer and reasonable tho I still do have my outbursts every now and again. Everyone is different tho.

Sincerely, A Mom who Yells

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I’m a yeller :joy: I feel like it’s allll I do lol. no advice but good luck! :blush:

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How to talk so kids will listen is a great book but takes a lot of patience and practice. If you want a quick fix, 123 magic may be more for you.
Also a fun game to practice listening skills is red light, green light.

Ppsssshhh if you figure out a solution I am all for it. I’m in the same boat, no one listens until I scream like a banshee and then I’m crazy because I’ve been telling my daughter for 5 hours to do the damn dishes. Ugh

I dont yell, i do however change the tone of ma voice and go deeper and ma daughters like oh shit :sweat_smile::sweat_smile: she listens most of the time anytime it dunst work i just tell her in taking her toys away until shes done as shes told so mix of both n shes normally a very gid lassie :rofl::blush:

Girl thats me all day yell yell yell these little bad ass kids know what’s going to happen when they don’t listen lol it does suck and I hate doing it but I also don’t think its fair my 10 and 6 year old don’t listen and fight all the time

Kids don’t respond to yelling, especially if you yell a lot. I tell them in a calm, firm voice. If they misbehave, I take something away or make them write sentences. Always follow through with any punishment you put into place.

So people get loud when they aren’t feeling heard, it’s totally normal. How about when you’re giving the kid instruction you lean down to them, touch their arm and ask for eye contact so you know for sure the kid isn’t tuning you out. Confirm by saying something like “you hear me, correct?” And if they don’t answer try again. Shouldn’t take too long :two_hearts: good luck

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Following I have 3 teens and a 3 year old. My whole day is yelling

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When you feel so mad that you wanna roar, take a deep breath… and count to four :notes:

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Please let me know when you figure it out. Taking thing’s doesn’t work with my kid’s. I’m a firm believer in whipping and even that dosen’t work. Please no hate every parent is different. Grounding dosen’t work either.

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