How can I talk to my boyfriend about having more kids?

I want to have one more baby, but my boyfriend said he doesn’t want anymore. Advice. My boyfriend and I welcomed our son on July 2, 2020, and he’s been saying since he was born, he wants to get fixed and doesn’t want any more kids. He and I have talked about having two kids together, but I’m not sure why he changed his mind. Any advice on how I can bring this up to him?

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Why pressure him into having more kids if he doesn’t want them? Respect that he doesn’t want more.

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Talk about Marriage before more kids , get him to commit

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Give him space and time you just had a baby focus on the one you ha e first he might change his mind he might not

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Enjoy this time, its new to the both of you. Your baby is still a newborn.

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Girl you are not even married yet :expressionless::expressionless:

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Why not get married? It doesn’t sound like he is committed to you and his son.

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Sometimes people think they know what they want but until they experience it themselves they don’t always realize what it means. He may not enjoy the newborn stage and doesn’t want to go through with it again. Or maybe he’s just realized he really only wants one kid. Try having him explain to you his thoughts without you trying to explain away his issues.

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These arw thinf discussed beforehand

I would give him time. You literally just had one

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I would try to give him some time. I mean you just had a baby. But if he doesn’t want anymore children you have to respect that just like he would have to do the same if you didn’t want any more. Maybe it’s more stressful having a child for him than he thought. Give him time to adjust and he may end up changing his mind. Pressuring him after just having a baby is probably what’s making him say no more.

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It’s been 2 months! I’m sure most people feel like NO WAY after a couple months of a crying newborn lol. Give it some time.
If he’s actually talking about getting snipped, sit him down and tell him you’d like to maybe talk about another child in the future.

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I don’t know if people on this page know that it’s okay if females don’t want to get married :joy::woman_shrugging:t5: you don’t have to get married to have kids like…

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It’s only been two months. Give it some time, maybe he will change his mind. In the end you can’t force him to have another baby.

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You just had a baby, you shouldn’t be having sex much less wanting another baby right now

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Some people realize they just don’t want anymore kids after their first so I wouldn’t pressure him. I didn’t go through that “my child is the best thing ever” stage after my first son was born, I fell in love with him later but I hated the first year. My second child was an oops 5 years after my first was born :crazy_face: I love both of my kids but some people are just one and done :white_check_mark:

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You don’t have to be married to have kids. Sit down with him and just ask him (nicely :grin:) what made him change his mind about having another child. Your baby is 2 months old, it can be eye opening to first time parents. Ask him if would be willing to wait to get fixed so y’all can wait until the baby is older before adding another child. Having babies so close together can be frightening to some parents. He may just want to wait. But have a serious conversation with him and listen to what he says. Also explain your thoughts on another child.

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I would just wait until your baby is older then discuss it again (unless he plans on getting fixed in the near future then as a couple you need to sit down and have a serious discussion about it). He may decide later on that he wouldn’t mind having more. The newborn phase can be hard and probably not the best time to decide whether you want more or not.

I would not bring another child in to this world today.and also u said u arent married

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You still have a newborn. I don’t think this is the time to approach this

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