How can I teach my child that it's sometimes okay to say no to adults?

How do you teach your kids it’s okay to say no to adults if it’s something that makes them uncomfortable? I know kids are taught to respect adults, but what if it puts them in danger and they don’t know they have the option to say no because they weren’t taught that way?

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I’ve always told my children if someone asks you to do something that you don’t feel is ok, say no. Or if it makes them uncomfortable, they can say no as well.

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Explain what you just said, kids are super.

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Depending how old they are you always teach them about inappropriate touching. So they know if they’re ever in a situation like that, that it’s never ok. Teach them stranger danger like never getting in a car with someone they don’t know or go anywhere with them. Just use your judgement as far as age and what to tell them. Always teach them that they can come to you and tell you anything no matter what it is.

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By repeatedly saying it’s ok. My daughter doesn’t like a game a relative plays. It is harmless but a trigger for me so whether why daughter doesn’t like as sees my body language. It could also be my daughter has her own mind and doesn’t like that sort of game. I have told her she needs to tell that person and explain why. Yet she’s been playing the game with me unprompted. It’s also likely she’s not used to funny games by others apart from me and my husband.

I had a horrible childhood including abuse of many forms. I don’t want that my daughter to go through anything I did.

She’s young, understands, always treated her as a individual rather than each age point. Might seem harsh but learnt so much. Might get if I have to when told please help tidy but she learning from birth is helping her pave a rounded future plus this is the generation to prevent as much wrong doing and say how they feel regardless and don’t be scared.

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We teach our son that saying no is ok. If it’s something like eating, bathing, dressing… we explain why saying no isn’t an option.

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We start teaching personal boundaries as soon as they are old enough to start talking In small sentences.
We do not force hugs, kisses or effecttion for anyone.
We tell them yes we respect adults untill they do something inappropriate.
We teach them all the proper names of body parts and those are privet and untouchable by anyone except parents, caregivers and Drs, only if caring for or check up by Dr.

My situation was a Little different my daughter is autistic but I remember my mom always told me
Not to sit on anther males lap only dad
If some touches you inappropriately come tell me and if your in an uncomfortable situation say NO if they persist Run scream do what ever to get away
And always always have a code word only you and your children know and if someone tryed to get them to come with them have them ask what’s the code word is I hope this answers your question

Unless it’s coming from me or their father they can say no and let us know what’s going on, I want to teach my kids to respect others but I’m teaching them to love and respect themselves first tho :ok_hand:t2:

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Code words. If they’re uncomfortable they need a code word or to call a parent to explain the situation and get the code word.

No is no! Within reason. I won’t force my kids to hug,kiss or play games that they say no to. There are certain things that no isn’t appropriate for. Eating, bathing and sleeping. Justin reinforce it at home. They won’t hud, kids or cuddle then that is fine. Stick to the others. You need to adapt this for whatever your lifestyle is.

My children do not have to touch, hug, shake hands etc. anyone that they don’t want (that includes me) for whatever reason they want. When they say they don’t want to touch an adult or whomever I back up their decision, no questions asked. I only require that they speak to people.

You say “it’s ok to say no to adults if it makes you feel uncomfortable or scared” they can understand that at a pretty young age

also teach them it is ok to have surprises but never secrets with adults

For me, you teach your child things like, when they say, no stop tickling me even when you’re playing with them, you stop. It’s teaching them boundaries. If you respect their boundaries, it gives them the courage to speak up. We have to teach our children that when they say stop, we stop. That teaches them their voice is heard. Small things like that teach them that they have a voice. But, adults have to realize kids have a voice too! It starts in the home…

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Respect has to go both ways. I’m teaching my son that it’s ok to say no or how you feel in a situation. Children need their voices to be heard too.

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I had that problem with my grandson. He had been only taught stranger danger not about people you might know who might not be safe to be around. And to always tell a parent or grandparent whose house or car their going into. When they have gone outside their own home.

Respect goes both ways. If a child feels uncomfortable…feeling safe to say no is essential. Young children don’t have the mental capacity to decipher an adults intentions…so they need to feel they can trust their own intuition.

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We started with body autonomy you don’t want hugs of kisses that’s just fine you can say no. We in force this in public we often have people walk up and touch my son and he dose like it so we taught him to tell people no stop. Has he offended people absolutely but it’s his body he is in control. We don’t force hi fives or anything either. However my kiddo has sensory issues so we’re big on boundaries. I will say we have had a few older people get kicked because they wouldn’t back off and he wasn’t having it.

I think you just teach them more about saying no in a respectful tone. If someone wants to hug them and they don’t want to, a simple “no thank you” should be respected by the adult.

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