How can I teach my daughter that talking back isn't okay?

I’m losing a battle with my three years old. She is starting to talk back to her dad and me when she is in trouble or disagrees with us. She doesn’t understand what “talking back” means, so I’m having trouble teaching her not to do it. I don’t want to use a timeout to fix this problem. How can you stop this before it gets out of hand?

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Consistency and also it won’t stop until well into the teen years.

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Does she witness others in the home doing this?

If you dont want to use timeout deal with it.

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Ignore the the talking back. Do NOT engage, zero eye contact until she responds appropriately. Then praise.

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Maybe tell her what she could say instead and explain that it’s not nice to say what she is saying and your redirection way of saying it is nice.
Sometimes kids need to be told what to do instead of what not to do

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She is too young to understand x

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As the mother of an almost 6 year old little redhead imma just say good luck!

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Only way I learned was my grandmothers back hands with her beautiful diamonds but I know that’s not ok now days good luck

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The problem is you don’t want to correct her need consistency and she does need to be banished for this and know that this is wrong if you start this now don’t expect her to get any better it’s only going to continue to get worse

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Mine has been sassy since the day she could talk…it’s a constant battle. At 8, I’m still not positive she truly understands what “talking back” is, but I teach her that after I’ve given her instructions or corrections the only response should be yes ma’am (or yes sir to dad). She’s far from perfect at following these directions but it is much better and gives us something to fall back on

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Literally just ignore it. My 2 year old is getting relentless with her mouth 🤦 I just walk away and let her get her attitude in check

Kids talk back, it’s better to have grown conversations with it. Dont talk down to her. Explain things. Use words.

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Ignore I had to do this with my oldest he talks back alot I was told to ignore I’ll tell him straight up I’m going to ignore you know until you listen or talk to me right now eye contact no holding turn your back it honestly works

Timeout is your best option. Whenever she talks back put her in the corner

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At this age there isn’t much you can do.Tell her be quiet,and listen.If not take away a favorite toy,tablet,etc

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Correct her " we dont say that, try “---------” instead please."

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When I did it I was smack in the mouth, and I did it to my boys and we learned fast. But I know ppl these days don’t do that!!! So put up with it and don’t complain.

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If punishing her is a problem for you. That would explain a lot

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Pow powsss. I believe.in. butt whooping but after like 10847382991 times of telling them not to. But time out does help. Or no snacks too. Thats a hard situation.

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