I have an 8 year old non verbal child and her 5 year old and 3 year old brother use to have the same issue bullying her. We tried talking to them time outs and everything in the book. Honestly the only thing we did get to work is doing it back to them. They bite the child you bite him back and explain afterwards that it hurts and you don’t do it etc…
Dont be afraid to smack your kid. Honestly. You don’t have to abusive to discipline
They shouldn’t be expected to play together all the time. Or to even be friends, but you can model kind behaviour so they understand they should atleast be nice to eachother.
Do they both have somewhere in the house they can have alone time?
Until they learn to live with eachother be there monitoring when they are together. Praise the positive interactions.
And threatening violence with violence isn’t very effective. 8 probably thinks of someone does something they don’t like they can spank/hit them
People who hit get hit back! My daughter learned that at 3 yo as well. No I didn’t abuse my child. I’m actually anti spank , but like I said people who hit get hit back.
Model what you want him to do and be present at all times.
Smack his ass and put him in time out. Kids who aren’t punished for being bully’s now lead to bigger bully’s in the future. If you don’t deal with it now you’ll be dealing with an angry mom later that won’t tolerate that, parents aren’t fond of kids bullying others and have started taking things into their own hands because parents/schools don’t wanna teach their kids respect. I’d hate to see you get knocked around in the future because of the actions of your child, smack his little ass set him in time out and tell him that’s not how you treat people and everytime he’s mean he gets a spanking and sits.
Stop threatening to spank him. Don’t punish violence, with violence. Take away his privileges. Talk to him, about being nice. Nice touches. Supervision. At all times. Using your words. Etc. I’m not against spanking at all. But, that doesn’t always help, to teach them not to hit.
I’m a parent to a special needs kid. I’ve seen first hand how this works. At least this mother is TRYING to teach her kid! I’ve seen kids flat out ask my daughter if she’s stupid and their parents don’t do shit, and at least she’s TRYING for God’s sake! She’s WANTING to teach her son how to interact with other children that are different from him. My suggestion hun, even though your son isn’t special needs, find special needs group and ask them how to help your son learn to interact. Your doing a great job as is
Put him in the corner. If he won’t stay they stand behind him with your knee in his back. They no choice but to stand there and take their punishment.
If child doesn’t want to listen and tell lies then it’s game on. You will learn how to behave like a human with respect and manners. Or pay the price. Some just like to learn the hard way
Redirect and explain and if yes wants to continue do the same to him. He wont like it
I have 3 girls that are teens, my mother is constantly asking me to take my nephew who is 7. Because I teach manners and respect. She says can you start classes this weekend ? Sure
Start making him sit in time out with you sitting next to him so he knows how serious you are, absolutely do not let him go and play the first time he asks.
It looks like you haven’t introduced the concept of ones feelings. Since very young its important to teach our kids that we have feelings like happy, sad, mad, upset, excited etc. Seems like your child has the understanding the other kid is nonverbal and is taking advantage of that but he doesnt know how to treat other kids either. So instead of threatening him with a spanking change it up and have him face the wall while holding a book above his head. Have him sit on the side in a timeout. Don’t forget to do things together with both kids to avoid jealousy. In order for your kid to be feel good and be happy he needs to be “celebrated” so lots of positive encouragement and go down to his level. Be a kid with him because it looks like he’s just asking for attention. When kids don’t get that loving positive attention during play time or at all they act out. Thats one of many reasons why kids become bullies. Goodluck.
I was hard on mine when they were small I barely have to correct my younger two. My oldest when she turned 18 she also turned stupid. All I’m saying is all the hard work I did. And being very consistent paid off.
How are you expecting him not to hit and those other behaviors when you are spanking ? That’s teaching him the behaviors
Why is he allowed to hit, kick and pull this boy’s hair until he is crying? First sign of aggression, you need to immediately remove him from the situation and put him in timeout with a clear explanation of why. Each time he STARTS to be aggressive, same thing, time out, explanation. Be consistent. Until he learns to not be violent with the boy, he should never be left unsupervised and close attention should be paid. Don’t wait until it’s escalated to crying.
Also, threatening violence as a result of violence. No. You need to punish and follow through every.single.time.
Our school in the area offers classes to the public in an inclusive classroom. It costs money but not as much as a typical preschool and normal plus differently abled kids work. In our area the school is Metzaenbaum .
Stop threatening to spank him and do it! Screw all that violence doesn’t call for violence crap! My kids are well mannered, respectful and aren’t bullies. Spank that a**
Spend time with them both together doing things that they both enjoy. Teach them to interact in a way they both can