How can I teach my son not to be a bully?

Hopefully you can get his behavior under control and I commend you for reaching out for suggestions. While you indicated that you aren’t moving, at some point your friends are going to get fed up with that nonsense and may ask you and your child to leave. Is your child in preschool? Maybe ask the teachers if he is also behaving this way at school and how they suggest you handle it. Take away toys, privileges, and stop making threats that he knows you won’t stick to.

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All you parents on here bashing other parents for spanking their kids, sound absolutely ridiculous. Growing up, I got my ass spanked with hand and the belt. It taught me nothing but respect and discipline. There is a complete difference between spanking and abuse! As far as the OP question goes, I have a 5 and 2 year old boys. At 3 it is tough to get them to behave like they should. Start with a conversation. If they refuse to listen then go with a time out and make sure they sit there. If they don’t learn from that, then take things away and then start spanking. With every punishment you need to communicate what it is they’re doing wrong and why they are being punished until it starts to change their behavior. If nothing works, seek counseling.

Why are the parents of the nonverbal child allowing this?! I would kick you and your child out immediately. NOBODY would be allowed to bully my child, friend or not.

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It is probably the change for him…if you’ve just moved in with your friends as you put…its unsettled him. Childen like routine and when unsettled they act out. Dont let him hurt the non verbal child until he cries, remove him as soon as he shows any anger towards him. Sit him in time out and stand behind him until you feel necessary xx

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Yikes. Fix the problem now however you can or else you might be kicked out.:grimacing: I wouldn’t let any child that bullied mine live with me.

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Give that nonverbal child permission to do to your son what happened to him :woman_shrugging:t2: he will learn he doesn’t like it and he’ll stop

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stop threatning to bust his ass and ACTUALLY bust his ass also show him bullying will not be accepted

I’m going to put my son in Karate they teach you self control. My sister said it’s so good for her son that is really hyper.

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If your son did this to my son (my son nonverbal) & still did it after told not too? I’d have the police there, my son’s ABA therapist called, CPS reported on you & evicted.
Excuse me! Really you can’t parent your child? No excuse for you to let slide. The child is 3, do better.
Parent & discipline your child for starters.

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He needs a spanking first and foremost. Also, when he is nice to him praise him, make a big deal out of it so he knows he’s doing a good thing. Sometimes when my daughter picks on the babysitting kids I send her to her room.

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Why are you letting it get that far is my question?

U may need to move and just bring him to visit so he can learn how to communicate and play with the other 3yr old.

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I know a lot might not agree but do whatever he does back to him. And give consequences when he does it like take away toys, tv time, etc. and when he does positive things rewards him in some way. My three year old started acting out horribly when I had my newborn it took a lot of work but she got better just happens with changes in their life it’s their way of expressing it

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You are lucky that I’m not the mother of that non verbal child. You’d be outta my house, yesterday

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Well first of all don’t resort to physical violence. You’re only confirming to him that his behavior is right. You’re “above” him so you get to hurt him. He feels “above” the other boy so he gets to hurt him. You have taught him this behavior. Now you need to change the way you treat your son so he can learn to be compassionate &, emphatic to others. There’s no quick fix. You have to unteach the violent behavior. You say you’re not moving. So on some level you’re ok with this little boy having to suffer at your son’s expense. Your friends should evict you. I wouldn’t allow someone to live with me who’s child is harming mine.

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Well most mom’s on here seem to think you just need to give him a big hug, kiss on the cheek, explain why he’s in trouble then go for ice cream (more or less). Then we wonder why kids act out like they do. Why not when your not really being punished.

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Bust his ass and put him in the corner take it all away

I think everyone is blowing this way out of proportion!! She isn’t letting her son hit the other boy at all , she’s teaching him not too. Some kids are hard to teach at that age and simply don’t understand or they just don’t care. I have a 3 year old little brother that doesn’t like other kids so when I come around with my 17 month old son he gets jealous, tries hitting biting, throwing toys… and while all of us are they in the room it just happens so fast. So we tell him you don’t hit, hitting other kids is not okay he gets a timeout and made to say sorry to the other kids. Nobody is letting anyone hit their kids by any means ! Kids are all learning at different stages , as long as you are making sure that they know they cannot do that and try stopping it from happening . When I go over to my parents we have to stay right on top of my son so that he doesn’t get hurt and no it won’t always be like this but the kids are learning I’m not going to keep my son from his grandparents but I’m also not going to let him get beat on. I wouldn’t let him do that to anyone either

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U need to look behind the behaviour why is he acting out could be the change moving in with new people he could be overwhelmed n that’s why he’s acting out x

He shouldn’t need to lie about it! At 3 he they should never ever be left alone together! Then there’s nothing to lie about! You see it happening, you snatch that child up and remove him. Then he doesn’t get to be around, or interact with, anyone until until he can exhibit safe behavior (including you!). You put him in a crib, or an empty room (or somewhere confined, where he can’t hurt himself) and you hold that door shut, and he stays there for 3 minutes or until he is calm and being safe. Then he apologizes and you all play together so you can exhibit appropriate behavior. They should NEVER be out of your sight!

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