Help! I have an almost 15 month old son who has started biting and smacking me in the face. We are trying to teach him about gentle touches. But he just keeps doing it. I can’t figure out a time out for him. Any suggestions?
I am going through the same thing right now with my daughter. And she’s almost 16 months old
Do it back. I did. And it worked.
Change the tone of your voice when you at teaching him right and wrong
I’m dealing with my 20 month old hes tall and can reach everything now so I’m trying to teach him right n wrong on certain things I noticed change of tone helps
My 11 month is doing the same thing, except he is teething as well. When he bites we yell oww loud so he knows and he will stop. The slapping we grab his hand and we will say oww and he will stop and gives us hugs. Best to show tell them how it makes u feel so the understand how it hurts us so they stop. No disciplining neither
When my daughter hits me, I say kisses not kicks, hugs not hits. I’ve literally kissed her hand every time she hits me. I, also, don’t say “ow” or anything to react. She doesn’t hit me much these days. She kisses me instead
Act dramatic and yell like it really hurts (sometimes I know it really hurts) fake cry let them know they “hurt” you by doing that
Tell him it hurts. Say ouch!!! And tell him no and walk away from him. You can only explain it so much for him to understand. But if you walk away and show him you’re not giving him attention when he’s acting like that, he might catch on
I went through this with my kid, act like it hurts really bad. Tell him no, that’s not nice that hurts, and walk away.
As a former daycare teacher, we tried not to say things like “no hitting, no biting” because saying hit or bite actually makes kids more compelled to do it again. Hitting, spanking or biting your kid back has also been scientifically proven to have negative effects on your kid and can end up teaching them it’s okay to do it. They are constantly watching and learning from you. I recommend showing your kid how to touch gently when they act out, say “gentle touches” as you show them and then hold out your hand and ask them to show you gentle touches. It’ll take repetition and positive reinforcement, but you’ll eventually get the result you want.
When my grandson bit me at that age i bit him back and he hasn’t bit me since. He is turning 3 next week.
The ones that are saying “Do IT BaCk” are literal idiots. You’re trying to teach the child that doing that is wrong, not hurt them. That is teaching them nothing. You have to remember that trying to make a young child understand something is hard. Just be consistent in a firm “no” and “that’s not nice” … I used to take my daughters hands and gently rub my face, hand or arms and saying “we have to be sweet” and if she was doing it to be mean bc shes upset I tell her it’s ok to be upset but we do not hit and hug her and that started to work very well. So instead of getting angry and wanting to hit she would want to hug instead
Do it back… screw what others say about child abuse, like dont hurt them but defo do it to show them it hurts mommy
So I was told not to ever tell them no hitting or no biting because all they hear from that is hit or bite and so they think that that’s what they’re supposed to keep doing.
Plus my daughter we would just tell her no we would say ow. I remember one time she was hitting me in the face with a toy car and kept throwing it at me and I told her you know no not nice I took away the toy and she went and got something else to hit me with and I picked her up and placed her somewhere else and said okay Mommy’s going to take a break while you calm down. she was 15 or 16 months old when I did that. And she instantly was like oh okay that’s not okay
If she’s hitting because she’s upset about something or she’s frustrated I will try to calm her down you know I’ll take both her hands and try my best to figure out what’s wrong whether it’s she wants something and she can’t express that
this is the age where they start to learn how to control their motions a little more they start to learn to understand them so it’s up to us to teach them it’s okay to have emotions but also teach them how to react to those emotions.
For the biting: bite back. Not hard enough to really hurt them or leave marks, but enough that they realize it’s not a good feeling. I did it once to my god daughter and she never bit again.
So pretending to cry helped us she was a biter at 13 months old also she bit her own finger and it just stopped now she is 3 and just playfully bites because she has been a “dog” the last few months
Bite him back it will stop
I wish more ppl took basic child development & phyc classes. To solve this problem you need to understand the problem. Toddlers confuse kissing & biting. DON’T bite him back. The pain will confuse him. He’s doing it out of affection. He may become less affectionate. You’ll be teaching that love=pain. That’ll cause issues with relationships later. Kids learn by example. Kiss him when he bites you. He’ll eventually get the difference He slaps you either for your reaction or because someone slaps him. Discipline is to teach. Teach your child right, not wrong behavior.
I know this sounds horrible but the 5th time my kid bit me I told him I will bite back do not test me I have more and bigger teeth than you! He never bit again. Then little sister came and bit him and drew blood he bit her back and no more biting ever again
My son never responded well to hitting or biting back. (He laughed when I bit him back…) the best thing we did was “you hit, you sit”. Started it around 13/14m and still use similar language for other behaviors now that we don’t like. At 15m your child can sit for one minute and then show you gentle hands. You will have to sit with him for timeout- he’s going to try and get up and he’s going to fight it. You just keep going. After a while, my son would hit and then get his time out and he’d pitch a fit about it until the buzzer went off then he’d say “sowy mama” show gentle hands and hop down to go play like nothing happened at all.