How can I tell my SO I am pregnant when he isn't ready?

Just tell him and brace yourself for the fallout. This is why I asked for a tubal ligation, to which my doctor laughed at as she told me no. Didn’t have anymore babies though, and won’t.

Just be an adult and straight out tell him, you know he’ll be upset and isn’t mentally prepared for another child so you can’t hold that against him. It may turn out ok but be prepared for a negative outcome just in case. Just because you’re happy doesn’t not mean he can’t be stressed over it, I can imagine another child being stressful for a couple in this situation. Good luck and just be honest.

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My fiance wasnt happy either times he was going to be a dad but he warmed up to it. It took like 5 months before he was happy

Well… He knew having sex results in potential babies. You obviously cannot hide it. So id tell him and get it over with. But… He starts using again… He’d be hqving bags packed. 3 kids is hard ebough

Condoms break too guys :woman_facepalming:t3: the amount of people saying ‘well he should’ve wrapped it’.
Of course he’s not gonna be happy or supportive but you still need to tell him. He’ll either accept it or your doing it on your own, literally the only two options you have

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So you knew he wasn’t ready but took no precautionary measures to avoid pregnancy and being in this type of dilemma? You’re BOTH irresponsible. This is simple sexual
Ed we all learn in school. Either stay abstinent, or protect yourself with birth control AND condoms, to avoid pregnancy. Instead of letting him raw dog you and bust inside knowing you’re not on any type of BC. And you have a 1 year old??? Chances of getting pregnant again within the first year after childbirth are extremely high. Sounds to me you knew exactly wtf you were doing. But so did he. Stop procreating.
This just sounds stupid.

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Dam so many negativity here. Accidents do happen… and since it did just tell him and go from there… Do what’s right for you and your baby and if it goes wrong which I pray it doesn’t just give him some time to come around bc I feel like this could be a good thing for y’all… follow your heart be strong be careful and I wish you luck and many blessings

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I “looooove” how some of you women on here are only blaming him lmao. :unamused: y’all are toxic and sexist. It takes 2 to make a baby!!! Like go back to school and learn something like you sound really ignorant

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Patience and understanding. You need to understand he might freak out…he may say things in the moment he doesn’t mean out of panic. Give him space to let everything sink in if he needs it. But you just need to adult and be up front about it now.

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Get your life in order. It seems as if your family is young. Take a breath enjoy what is around you. Focus on in sober life. Just remember its is a family disease. Go to meeting together. Go slow down with the children. Lots of healing and sobriety will go along way.

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Just tell him I’m assuming have supported him through his hard times been there right by his side so time for him to man up and do the same for u and oh God he got u pregnant so now he has to stand like a man I hope this happens and u have the support from him as u have given

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If you’re not on birth control and he’s also not doing what he can to prevent…you guys obviously don’t care that much about having another. You made the bed now you have to lay in it. Hopefully he will think before he reacts and you guys can get it together

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I agree, she knew exactly what she was doing and hoped he’d change his mind once she told him. I won’t be surprised if there’s another post in a few days “told my bf I was pregnant again and he left or he isn’t sober anymore”

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Tell him ASAP speaking from experience with addiction I’m a addict and it is a daily fight to stay clean stress play into it a lot but he needs to know soon so he can get to work on processing this and be supportive of him he needs you and the children without you he will have nothing worth living for

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Listen shit happens you guys will make it work either way wether it’s just you or the both of you. You do need to tell him but try and make the conversation as healthy as possible and talk about what he’s doing to maintain his sobriety. Nobody can tell the future you never know what could happen he could relapse or he could do great! Either way you need to stay strong and healthy for your kids. :heart: I hope everything works out for you guys.

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Why are people saying “if he leaves it’s your fault he made it very clear” ? That’s b.s. If he didn’t want another kid because nothing is 100% they shouldn’t have had sex. He has just as much responsibility as the mom and she doesn’t get to walk away from the baby and kids I don’t think it’s right of him to either regardless they both laid down and made that baby they are both responsible. Let him process the info but remind him gently that it takes 2 people to make the child. All children are a blessing regardless of timing and the timing is never perfect but it’s in gods hands just trust in everything happens for a reason

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Prepare to raise the child alone and go about your life

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Honestly I think some of these comments are just flat out rude and accidents happen and you can do everything right an still get pregnant and why people are just pointing the finger at her is beyond B’s even if they had sex with out using any sort of protection he is the male he knows when he is about to bust his load she don’t. Some of you act like she set him up an that is fucking bs , she was asking for advice not to be judged by a bunch of rude ass Bitches…just saying

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Y’all!! Wtf! Be nice!

Having a baby is stressful and although you feel like he’s not being supportive it doesn’t sound like you’re being supportive either. An addict in recovery is something that is VERY stressful. You might need to take a break from the relationship so you aren’t having any added stress from being with a partner who isn’t ready for another baby right now. Don’t hold it against him please let him put his recovery first especially since you guys had a conversation on not having a baby anytime soon.

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