Advice, please! We went to court a couple of years ago over my stepdaughter, she’s 3. We also live in Alabama. In the agreement, it states that they were supposed to provide proof of insurance through her stepdad. He is in the Army, so my stepdaughter has Tricare. After several attempts in the past year, they have never provided us any proof. Apparently, she does not have a health insurance card? So, I said that to say this. Let’s note that I take this child to the doctor when she’s sick, to the dentist if need be, and anything else. We pay out of pocket costs because we can’t get any info from the stepdad. The mother does not take care of her; she does not take her to the doctor or dentist. She does not have a PCP. There have been multiple times we have picked her up, and she reeks of cigarette smoke and perfume trying to cover it up. So, yesterday I took her to the dentist because she has two black cavities on her back molars on the bottom. So when I get there, I find out they can’t find her insurance through TriCare in the system. Normally, they look that up by the stepdads social. I already knew this was going to be a headache, but I called the mother a couple of times, and she never answered. The stepdad calls me back on the mother’s phone and continues to chew me a new one about asking for his social so they can find her insurance. The receptionist overheard the conversation after several hours of waiting for an answer, the receptionist said, “We are concerned for your step daughter’s teeth, and we know you want them looked at, so we are going to suggest you get her on an insurance plan with you guys and we will bill you later.” I said okay, we could do that. Thirty minutes later, I find out my stepdaughter has to have all four back molars capped because the cavities are so bad. Her gums are swollen from where her mom doesn’t let her brush them. Her other teeth have cavities forming at the gum line, so those will have to be fixed as well. They will have to send her a couple of hours from home to have this done, and she will have to be put to sleep. They said if she went six months without this done, all her teeth would abscess, and she would have to have them all cut out. And if they abscess, they could kill her. I was FURIOUS. Why hadn’t the mother already had this took care of? Again, she never takes her to the doctor or anything on her own time. So, I called my husband and talked to him about it. A few minutes later, the mother called my husband and said they were trying to charge me with insurance fraud because I was trying to find out about step daughters insurance. My husband told her that I’m his wife and if I need to take her to a doctor or anything that I have right to do so, especially when my husband isn’t able to. Obviously, her medical needs are not met when she’s with her. She has everything she wants and needs when she’s with us. We already have a lawyer from previously, we are looking for advice for full custody. Thanks!
I would get a letter stating all of that from the dentist and give it to ur lawyer a d file for full custody based on neglect
File through a lawyer for full custody. They’ll serve her papers and go to court but you’ll have to prove them unfit
Write everything down!! From what she’s wearing to when she’s eating and what, how she smells when you pick her up, if she’s been bathed or not. Every discrepancy, every argument/conversation about your step daughter. It’ll just make your case stronger.
Never get legal advice from Facebook. Ask your attorney
Attorney general to take them back to court, and CPS for medical neglect, which is considered child abuse
Look dad has to take her. You are there to assist. Is he incapable of taking his child to the dentist??? You can not ask for his social. What is the father doing about this?? He needs to handle this and you provide the support for those choices.
I believe they are in contempt if they aren’t providing the court ordered info regarding insurance. Keep all bills for court. File for full custody on the grounds of medical neglect
Document everything that is being done and everything you guys are doing to help her, tell them why you believe that she would be better off with you and. Your husband and how you can provide her with a stable environment, call a lawyer and file papers for full custody
You just said you have a lawyer. Ask them that’s what you pay them for. Yeah it’s free here but different states, different ways
Good luck. We went through a very similar scenario, only worse. The judge didn’t care at all. He did tell the mom that she needed to take the kids to the dentist at least once a year. Great. So we put the kids on our insurance, at an added cost to us, so we can take them when they’re with us during the summer.
Get dentist n school n doctor reports give them to lawyer and all doctors bills also a copy of court order saying she has to provide insurance
The child should have a dependent ID card so she can use her tricare, that is proof of insurance with the military.
Document everything! Pictures, letters from doctors, dentist etc.
If you already have a lawyer shouldn’t you be seeking his advice?
So tricare is pretty good with things. You don’t need his social number really, all you need is his DOD number and they can find her through that. With tricare, they don’t provide you with insurance cards either. Your insurance card is you Military ID, so her bio mom would have to physically be there for anything insurance related. Well this is for a Marine Corps… I’m not sure how the army does things, I’m going to assume it’s the same way across any military platform.
Tricare doesn’t provide insurance cards but the other parent who has custody can call tricare and ask for the child’s benefit number to obtain care. Everything else, document, find a good lawyer and get advice from the attorney.
The solid proof you have and I would get it in writing from doctors and dentists should be enough to prove the mother and step father are unfit to care for her.
Document everything and contact a good lawyer.
I would defend document everything and get the doctors and dentists to do this also.