How did you handle your parents/in-laws letting your kids get away with things?

So how did you guys navigate parenting with your parents & in laws when they are babysitting your children? I’m not a fan of the whole “grandma/grandpa let’s me do this” or “grandma/grandpa let me have this”. my parents are really stuck in there ways and I know its gonna be a problem.

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I know this isn’t very helpful, but you just have to pick your battles. Grandparents are going to let grandkids get away with so much, but the way I see it as long as they aren’t getting hurt then pick and choose what to make a big deal about.

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I’m about to have to deal with this. I firmly believe if they wont follow what I have deemed acceptable or unacceptable they will not watch mini. Giving her various snacks and basic grandparent spoiling is fine. But fundamental things that I say yes or no to, i wont budge. They will either do their best to follow the rules i have laid out or they will not see her. She is my child, not theirs and will understand that what I say goes, idc who’s house she is at.

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Luckily i never had this issue, my parents have always stood by my husband and i’s decisions, my inlaws and i arent super close (i have no ill feelings towards them) but even they have backed us 100%

No help here cuz my kids do this I hate it but I’m sure I was the same way when I was thier age that’s what grandparents do they won’t be around forever the main stuff they agree on but simple things like giving coke or cake and making slime because I’m not cool and wont let them do it whatever as long as it’s safe and they are looked after i dont Care

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They are grandparents. Not parents. Don’t see the big deal

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its the grandparents right to spoil the grandchildren.

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Grandparents should be respecting the PARENTS.

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I struggled with this with my oldest. I lowered the amount of time she was going to her grandmother’s at first, but then I remember as a kid wishing that I had a grandparent that spoiled me like my friends had so I let it be. I did explain my rules to grandma and told her if my daughter came back an a-hole she was grounded from grandma’s lol. Once they turn about 10, they stop wanting to visit grandparents all the time and it’s not an issue anymore.

Eh, pick and choose your battles. Grandparents naturally do this. My mom does it and I learned to just let it be, specially since they don’t see each other often. I feel as long as you are not overstepping my authority for major things…the little things you just gotta let it be. Can’t sweat every little thing.

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I’m a nan of a very handsome 6 year old and that boy is the apple of my eye… Most of the time I have to do as I’m told or my daughter tells me off :roll_eyes::smirk: but he’s my angel and in my house it’s my rules… Oh they both live with me :joy: am also the bad cop sometimes but the fun nan always

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The way I see it is I can’t bitch about a free sitter. Kids need a place to be spoiled. But my parents also don’t let my kids act like animals or be terrible. They do things I don’t like but they’re my parents lol so I’ll get over it

Honestly…I just got over it. I knew damn well when the kids went over to grandma/grandpa’s house they would get too many treats and not enough sleep. :woman_shrugging:

What happens at Grandma’s stays at Grandma’s. No harm done.

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Let em. Kids are smart. They know who they can get away with stuff with. If you’re consistant they’ll know that.

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I used to tell my daughter that just because her papa let her do certain things, doesn’t mean I allow the same in my house. You can’t control grandparents actions & I’m sure whatever they are doing isnt necessarily life or death. Grandparents also have been where you are. They have come to realize that life is short to be so serious & strict all the time. I think as we get older we realize some things aren’t as big a deal as we used to think they were. Like having a bowl of ice cream before dinner is going to hurt anyone.

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It depends on what it is my son totally knows that there is different rules at nan nans and that he has different ones at home. He knows she handles things differently than I do and is completely used to both

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Be grateful your kids have grandparents to visit! I didn’t have any growing up.

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Grandparents have no rights to the kids. So it’s follow your rules or they don’t get to see the kids 🤷🤷🤷

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I can’t wait to be a grandparent to do this :rofl: