How did you know you were ready to be done having children? My husband and I have two daughters (ages 5 and 1.5), plus his son from a previous marriage lives with us. He has a vasectomy scheduled next week. We initially agreed on the vasectomy because we aren’t getting any younger (I’m 37, and he is 41), and I had had four miscarriages - two before my 1.5-year-old was conceived and two after she was born. Plus, my body doesn’t like childbirth - I ended up back in the hospital a week after both girls were born. But now I’m having doubts about it. I keep feeling sad. I cried for a half-hour yesterday. Every time I think about getting rid of the baby stuff, I cry. I see a pregnant woman and cry. I can’t figure out if I really want another baby or if I am just grieving, never having the chance to have another. Obviously, I know that this is only a decision that my husband and I can make. But I would appreciate any advice. How did you know you were done with having kids? Did any of you grieve not having any more?
I gave birth to twins
I would talk to your husband about your feelings and honestly ask him to not get it until you figure out your feelings.
But also take into consideration if he is done as well.
I never felt like I was done.
Maybe you should adopt you could be helping a child in need have a family
It does get harder as you get older and if it had already put your health at risk then you have to take that into consideration and if you truly do want another baby you could always adopt
I knew during this last pregnancy. I don’t have easy pregnancy and we have 3 kids now (He has 1, I had 1 and then we had 1 together) and I just knew in my heart I didn’t want to do it again. We talked about it and decided during my csection I’d get my tubes tied. I had maybe 10% sellers remorse but the other 90% knew I was right about it in my heart.
When i realized i couldnt afford daycare for anither. Decided i was done
You need to put your health first. Those babies you have need you. No one can replace you. Do not chance leaving these little ones motherless.
I was so sick with both of my pregnancies that it scared me from ever doing it again. Especially my last. I need to be here for the children that I was lucky enough to have. Dont think I will be pushing the limits.
I mean just because he cant have kids doesnt mean u cant…
When I lost my son later pregnancy I knew I couldn’t take that ever again. I have my beautiful daughter❤
If you are not ready then ask him not to get it done .
For starters and NO OFFENSE, but you guys are getting up there in age so your first question to yourself would be do you want to start over & have another child in the house while you’re in your 60s. I’m only 23 & about to have my second child in April & I know for a fact that I’m done with having children so I’m having my tubes removed after birth. I came to the decision bc although pregnancy is beautiful, it’s hard as hell, and on a more personal level I hate thinking that I’ll have to give/share my attention & love with more children. It’s been a struggle knowing my daughter will have to share me & I don’t want to put two children through that! I know that sounds crazy & maybe it’s just my anxiety or something but that was a big factor in making the decision.
I never wanted any to begin with. 3 kids and 2 step kids later… my husband is snipped now, no more accidents
When I had my daughter I knew I f’ed up lmao. I have a boy and girl and I do not want anymore that is very clear to me. Kids are scary lol
My 4th ended in a miscarriage and I needed 2 pints of blood…my kids could have lost me…so that sealed it in. I had three healthy that needed their mom. I had my tubes taken out. I do sometimes feel bad and reallllly want a baby but my boys needed me more than I need another.
Sometimes you need to silence your heart and go with your head. We have two toddlers who are almost 3 and almost 2. I would LOVE another however I love what we have now and feel any more would be tipping the boat so to speak. Mind you my decision was made for me when I developed a pregnancy related heart condition and it was suggested by drs I avoided pregnancy again due to this x
I just knew. I only have 2, a 3 year old son and a 6 week old daughter. It’s not so much kids I don’t want more of but being pregnant…both my pregnancies I had gestational diabetes, the second time I was actually put on insulin and also had bouts of high blood pressure, I’m 36, I’m overweight and pregnancy is really hard on my body and the stress of complications is too much. I had my tubes removed when I had my daughter. And I’m plenty busy with a toddler and a newborn lol. If someday we really really want more kids we can see about fostering or adopting but I really feel like we are good with 2 I really do. I have no desire to be pregnant again lol. I’ve never been a good Dieter so trying to balance the diabetes was so hard, I also hate needles and had to give myself insulin shots! I overcame a fear lmao and was able to actually give myself the shots which I NEVER thought I’d be able to do but still the stress of not getting my blood sugar where it needed to be even tho I was r,eally trying was a lot. I should mention I also had a miscarriage a few months before I became pregnant with my daughter. I said I’d try one more time and I did :). I feel lucky to have my 2 kids and 2 successful pregnancies and I’m good with being done now. I couldn’t stand another miscarriage.