How Do I Go About Terminating My Unborn Baby's Father's Parental Rights, Since He Doesn't Want to Be Involved?

QUESTION:

"I’m going on seven months. My son’s father has told me since I was three months pregnant that he wants no rights to the child.

I waited a few months in hopes he’d change his mind but he hasn’t. I’m from Montreal, Canada, and don’t know what steps I will need to take to get this done because for the last 3 months he’s hasn’t even spoken or visited me. I’m due in January."

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TOP ANSWERS (AS SELECTED BY MODERATOR):

“If you’re not interested in getting child support. Change your number, move to a different home. Don’t update him or anyone he knows about anything. Ghost him and anyone who knows him as well. Don’t put him on the birth certificate, no information on the father whatsoever.”

“I thought if they aren’t on the birth certificate then they didn’t have any rights.”

“Take him to court to relinquish rights. Even if he’s not on the birth certificate, he can later try to get rights which sucks; that happened to me. Have him sign off all legal rights through the court so he can never just come back in and try to get partial custody.”

“In Canada, a parent can terminate their physical rights, but not financial rights. You need to go to court and price he’s unfit or doesn’t want to be in the child’s life. No just will allow a parent to remove the financial responsibility as that child did not ask to be brought into this world and has every right to be supported by each parent.”

“The right thing to be telling her, if you all are wanting to give her advice, is to go down to your local family self-help or courts division and ask them the process or how it would go in your state or county and get the right information because every state county city and person individual situation is different in every or some type of way. That would be my suggestion. I have 3 kids and have been through it and each has come out different. Just a recommendation.”

“I’m also from the Montreal area. Do not claim him at birth, and do not put him on any paperwork or birth certificate and he will have no rights at all. The only way that he’d be able to do anything is if he files for a DNA test himself. Then after 3 years he’s not even allowed to ask for the test. (Same situation when my daughter was born).”

“In Canada, the birth certificate doesn’t matter. He can come for rights anytime. He can even come to take the baby and be allowed to until you take him to court. He’s got the same rights as you no matter what here in Canada. And in Canada, you also cannot sign your rights away. In Canada, you aren’t allowed to because they consider him to be financially responsible to his child. The only way he can do that is if someone adopts the child (like a step-parent). Play this as if you’re Virgin Mary and your child’s father doesn’t exist. Very simple.”

“I would contact courts or get legal advice from family outreach or whatever services you have there, unfortunately, he is under no obligation to see or visit you as you are separated harsh but true maybe he is waiting until the baby is born then he may change his mind but unfortunately, right up until the baby is born he has no legal obligation to you or the pregnancy.”

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Well he won’t be on the birth certificate, so thats a start.

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Ask him to write a letter stating that🤷🏽‍♀️
Congratulations on the baby :heart:

I thought if they aren’t on the birth certificate then they didn’t have any rights

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They don’t really have any rights unless your married, until you get involved in the courts. I’m in the u.s. tho.

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He doesnt have any rights at all until the baby is born. Then its a matter of signing the birth certificate. If he doesnt. He has absolutely no rights.

Take him to court to relinquish rights even if he’s not on the birth certificate he can later try to get rights which sucks that happened to me. Have him sign off all legal rights through the court so he can never just come back in and try to get partial custody

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I went to court father didnt show up to court i was granted full custody also from the same area as u only difference is he was there through the whole pregnancy I left him when she was 8 months old and he never bothered with her and I ended up with full custody my suggestion is just dont put a father on the birth certificate mark father unknown

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Leave his name off the birth certificate then only you have rights to the baby

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Well fuck him if he don’t want to be apart of his child life , this baby is YOUR Blessing and his loss. Congrats on your bundle of joy.:sparkling_heart:

Why does he want his rights removed, to not have to pay child support?

In the united states…If he isnt on the birth certificate AND isnt established in court he has no rights. But you are ineligible for government assistance. Once 1 or both of the above is done HE has parental rights and U can get state help (usually). And then alot else changes. Best bet is to leave him off the birth certificate and hope he never takes you to court AND you dont need government assistance.

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Don’t put him on the birth certificate and get a lawyer.

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Now in the US they will not allow parents to sign away rights bc to many people do it to get out of paying child support. :woman_shrugging:
Unless the other parent gets married and their spouse wants to legally adopt their child, then they will allow it.

Just let him do him until such time you have an adequate father to adopt. Until then no court will strip rights.

I’m also from Montreal area. Do not claim him at birth, and do not put him on any paper work or birth certificate and he will have no rights at all. The only way that he’d be able to do anything is if he files for a DNA test himself. Then after 3 years he’s not even allowed to ask for the test. (Same situation when my daughter was born)

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Don’t put him on the birth certificate

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Don’t put his name on the birth certificate and change your number

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I know three men in NYS that signed away their parental rights but still had to pay child support. They weren’t on the birth certificate but paternity was established and they paid until those kids were 18.

Give birth to the baby first. Stop being bitter 2nd. And 3rd, don’t list him on birth certificate