How do I know if my fiance actually wants to marry me?

So I got together with my boyfriend in 2018 and then Valentine’s Day 2019 he proposed and we never set a date or anything because I was pregnant n had just found out!!! But we have been engaged for quite a while, and he never wants to set a date or even talk about it and say how he doesn’t want a wedding!!! How do I know if he’s really true in wanting to marry me? Or is it cuz he got me pregnant, and that’s why he did it!! I see all these people getting engaged n setting dates!!! Am I wrong for feeling off about thinking it will never happen??? He says he loves me to death, but how do u know if it’s for real or not?

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Could it be the strain of the financial portion of a wedding? That weighs hard on a guys mind.

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He isn’t ready or doesn’t want to. Set a date and tell him when it is.

Just do a small wedding plenty of people that can do it at their house thats what me and my husband did just our kids and 2 witness it was really nice if he still done not what to do it he’s not ready.

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My partner and I haven’t set a date. I think that will be the last thing we do before sending out invites. But just see if he really wants to marry. He may love you and got engaged to you. But alot of men do that. Get engaged cause they are committed they just don’t want the big money wedding. Maybe give it a couple more years. Me and my partner don’t want to get married too soon. We are thinking in two to three years

Actions will tell you if he loves you

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Maybe he feels he needs $ set aside before he sets a date
I mean covid just happened and ur nsy have affected the excitement becuz just trying to get ahead of it
Men don’t usually have all the creative wedding ideas
How bout u both set a date that realistic
And plan set money aside in a separate acct
He believe he loves u

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See if he is up for maybe a court wedding or a small backyard wedding. It could be that he is worried financially. If he still refuses to speak of it maybe its time to have the hard conversation of what you both really want. In reality you haven’t been engaged all that long so maybe he just wants to wait

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I was with my guy for 11 years before I got a ring…that was 3 years ago and we still aren’t married.

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I’ve been engaged since december 20th 2016. Found out I was pregnant January 6th 2017.:joy: I have no advice because I’m in the same boat

Maybe he just doesn’t want a wedding
You can get married without one

Just because he hasn’t set a date doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. I got engaged Christmas of 2017 we haven’t gotten married yet. I haven’t set a date because i don’t want a traditional wedding and to me marriage isn’t going to change much in our relationship except taxes. 💁 Weddings are expensive and i think personally they are a waste of money at least for us.

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If I really wanted to marry someone, the date wld be yesterday!

Engaged for 14 years before eloping… 22 years together married 8 years…

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I asked mine when we were going to get married and he took me right to the courthouse. Yeah, he’s just playing with you all the way around girl. :pensive: I hope you find your person some day! :heart::100:

ASK HIM. Seriously. Say, “I want to set a date to get married.” When he grumbles simply ask, “Do you want to even get married?”

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He could want to get married but not like the planning part. Some
Guys enjoy it , some don’t, some could care less. I think you should talk to him a little bit more about why he wants to get married before seeking the advice of strangers. Otherwise your just placing your own assumptions and doubts and that can be a dangerous game to play.

I’ve been engaged for almost 3 years :woman_shrugging:t3: we’re not in a rush… It’s only paper.

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Me and my fiancé haven’t set a date either. We’ve been together 6 going on 7 years next month
We got engaged when I was a few months pregnant with our daughter
We aren’t in any rush… we wanna wait till our daughter can walk down the aisle with us
I wouldn’t stress too much about it… it’ll happen when it happens :slightly_smiling_face:

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He didn’t “get” you pregnant…you got pregnant together. :wink: It doesn’t appear that he wants marriage.

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