How do i tell my father in law that he can’t kiss or hold my baby in a nice way?

I’ve been annoyed by my father in law lately. He’s always getting drunk and talking shit. He says he’s going to grab my newborn while we’re sleeping at night and sneak him to his room, which is not ok with me. He’s always drunk and is sick an always coughing and throwing up. This is the flu season, and a lot of babies have been in and out of the hospital due to sickness; some don’t even get to make it back home. I’ve been so strict and trying to tell them in a nice way that I DONT want anyone touching my baby without washing their hands. Or when they’re sick. My family thinks I’m over exaggerating, but I don’t want my baby to die cause people don’t know how to listen. So my question is, how can I avoid this in a nice way that doesn’t stir up drama.

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Wear your baby 100% of the time and don’t stay long. You “don’t feel well”.They need to respect you and the health of your baby.

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Drama or no drama. The drunk man needs to not take the baby…

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Rsv is no joke and my biggest fear when mine was little… if she got sick before 6 months she’d have to get a spinal tap. Your baby your rules.

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They can get over it. Your baby your rules. I’m going to be the same way when I have my son in may

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Show him pics of some of the babies that’s going around on Facebook who have RSV/Bronchitis/Pneumonia. And lock the baby in the room with you at night. Put hand sanitizer out and insist it’s used before anyone touches baby. You’re the mom, just gotta take the bull by the horns and speak.

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Even without the sickness, him being drunk is enough for me to say lay off my baby 🤷

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Moving out would be the easiest

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Is it ur house or his?

If its his house, stop and get out! You need to get a job and move out now!!! U need to put the child in daycare and get a job

If u dont live together lock ur doors and get a restraining order. He sounds dangerous!

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Gotta put your foot down. It’s a newborn baby. Hes drunk and sick. Those dont mix well, ever. Put a lock on your bedroom door so he cant come in while your sleeping.

Cause the drama girl, put them in their place

No is a sentence. Let the baby sleep with you or put your foot down. Obviously being nice isn’t working. No drunk person needs to be around a newborn period. If other people fail to understand that then they are part of the problem.

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You don’t. You do it directly, if your baby dies or ends up in the hospital you won’t care if you were nice or not.

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Drama or not, babys safety comes first. :woman_shrugging:

You don’t want him around your kid then move out

Sounds like you need a new living situation.

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You err on the side of caution and JUST DO IT. As many times as necessary. PROTECT your child. The consequences of not doing it are too Great

Put the baby in your room and lock the door

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Wtf? Dont invite his drunk dirty ass over to your house.

If he lives with you either you move out or he moves out for Bubs safety. Also your baby your rules. Babies getting sick so young is not good. Also him being drunk all the time around a newborn isn’t good.

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