How do time outs work with 16 month olds?

How often do you do timeouts for a 16-month-old? She’s in a hitting phase, so she gets told once not to hit. If she does it a second time, she’s put down if being held or we move away from her, the third time she’s put in time out. This is if it all happens one right after another, like if she hits us and we say no, then hits us again, then hits again; not like she hits us at 9:00 AM then hits us again at 9:20 or something. However, if she hits us with a toy, that’s immediately a time out. SHe’s only in timeout for 1 minute.

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I havent even done timeouts with my daughter. She is 14 months and when she hit me I hold her arms to her side and tell her not to hit because its “not good. Ow. That hurt.” Its been a while since she has hit me since I’ve started that.

time outs do not work for babies–read some child development books or websites

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She is literally a baby still. Time outs wont do u any good. Tell her it hurts, not nice and we have to be nice. Keep repeating it and redirecting her.

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Um at that age it may not really register what time out even is. Best thing is to get on their level, hold arms down and say “ow that hurt, not nice. No hitting” then redirect.

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She’s…16 months old. Try reading up on child brain development and learn to communicate with children.

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I was told by a professional to put them in their crib

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Wow time out for a 1 year old. They do not comprehend what you’re doing to them. When my daughter hits I hold her hand shes 2 I do not squeeze or hurt her I just hold her nicely and tell her to be gentle

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Def tell her no in a firm voice but likely its too early for timeout

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Just say in a firm voice OUCH NO THAT HURTS MUMMY

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Too early for time outs but if you get frustrated just put her in her crib for a bit and take a breather.explain hitting hurts and it’s not nice.

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Just say NO THANK YOU we dont hit and walk away … losing your attention will be more of a shock then getting extra attention(time out) because of what they did

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I’d pretend to cry so she knew it hurt and say ow and just set her down. Time out isn’t effective until 3 years old. You can google reasonable expectations of behavior by age and appropriate discipline online.

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Try redirecting instead. You will have much better luck. When you see her getting ready to hit move in and giver a high five instead.

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Say Gentle touch - take your hand and gently touch or rub her hands or face. Repeat as often as needed - she will learn. Goggle child behavior.

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I feel for you and understand my girls started early with Tantrums just say no and walk away and keep doing it

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From what I have read 16 months olds can sometimes point out specific features, eyes ears etc . We taught my son “oh no “, when he throws, drops , hits . Sitting them down to tell them it’s not ok is better then “timeouts”. At this point . And we taught him look at my eyes. this is how to properly communicate your expectations. The tricky thing is teaching children these things long before there able to register why your doing it. But luckily with kids if you do it consistently they pick up quickly . My guy is 14 months

I think that is too young for timeouts. I would say ouch, that hurts mommy and show them your sad…teach and use their hands to be gentle. Gentlely run their fingers around your face and speak softly. They can’t understand what what a timeout is…this is a young stage and they are reacting to emotions. You just have to guide them. Wish you the best! :heart:

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A child before 2-3 years old can’t be put in timeout. Their brain isn’t even developed enough to understand what time out is. When they hit tell them why they can’t do it or say “owww, you hurt me” and give a sad face. They understand more through facial expressions and simple words at this time. Also, hitting, biting, and not sharing is super common for this age group. Timeout doesn’t help them understand why they shouldn’t do it. Look up how to communicate with 1.5-2 year olds when they’re wrong and look up brain and language development for that age group. You have to get on their level.

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Would hold off until at least 2 with the time outs