How do you cope being a stepmom of a teenage boy?

Any moms out there stepmom to a teenage boy and any advice? The moodiness is one thing, but the perverted humor which I don’t tolerate yet hearing from my husband “it’s a boy thing”, I’m so over it. Help mamas! How do you cope?

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Have a sit down talk with your husband about excusing your stepsons behavior with “it’s a boy thing” because this is unacceptable. I have 3 younger brothers and none of them acted pervertedly or were allowed to, so it most definitely isn’t “a boy thing”.

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Sounds like your some needs to learn the difference between his mum and his friends
It’s a respect thing. If the boys eg dad and son want to talk like that fine they can do it when they are together and alone not in front of you

Depends on who the pervertness is aimed at. I mean as a mom of a teenager I have to normalize them being normal for being human . So it really depends what there saying. As a mom of the teenager I feel comfortable in engaging in the convo about sex and protection and etc . Even if I felt prudish like, I don’t want to project that onto my child . Breaking that cycle. Need to have a straight talk about boundaries . Idn if mom is involved but it be best to be on the same side . But do what your comfortable with or tolerate. Number one rule is boys and men shouldn’t do somthing that could make others feel uncomfortable and they need to know that it’s not ok .

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It’s not a bit thing, it’s a lack of respect thing. I’ve raised too many boys and that kind of thing was not allowed and yes I was a step mom too. If course they would cut up with their friends but they knew that it wasn’t appropriate around most people.

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Sounds like dad is the problem. Not the son.

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I had 3 of them. Glad to say I never had that problem. My husband kept them in line if he thought they said something out of line.

When i got married 5 years ago my now husband had a 13 year old and he never talk like that in front of me still hes 19 and dont even lives on his own with a girlfriend. Its respect. And i can say my bonus son and us have had a time.

Have a discussion with him about what is appropriate conversation in the house and around others. I understand crude humor don’t get me wrong I was raised with bikers. But that does not excuse respect around adults and ladies. There are times when it’s ok when it isn’t. Also if it makes you uncomfortable tell him so and your husband. Step mother or not you should never feel uncomfortable in there presence.

Get used to it. It’s a boy household. Their humor is different. Don’t ever squash their connection. My boys are 25, 21 and 18. It’s really important

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Husband needs to understand that that is not “just a boy” thing, and it’s disrespectful, not especially just to you, but to women in general. The oversexualization of girls their own age should not be getting normalized, even if they are reaching an age where sex is definitely a topic.

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Nacho him!!! go to the stepmom group they will help you more then mom groups

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Depends on what you mean by perverted humor … but if you can’t handle being around him then look into divorce or something

Honestly I have no clue to other than talk to your husband. I have a step son and wow it’s out of control with his anger but good luck

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I’m in the same situation. On top of the fact he and his mother both hate me. It’s a great time… 🤦😬

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With a very large glass of wine :wine_glass:

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It’s not a boy thing it’s a respect thing an if the father cant respect you the son never will…and you cant win this kind of battle

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Set your boundaries, be firm, have your husband understand and enforce your rules. But also take into consideration he is a teenager. They aren’t perfect so consider that sometimes you need to just lighten up :woman_shrugging:t2: better than smoking meth :joy:

Pick your battles. How old is he

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It’s a boy thing. Choose your battles. Forming a bond and connection with that child should be far more important to you not just control… And that childs life and expectations at home shouldn’t change because you got married that’s up to his dad. You knew he had a teenage son before hand. This is why repeat marriages tend not to work.

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