How do you deal with family that plays favorites?

Blended families and favoritism- what are your experiences with this? I am still struggling with this issue after five years, and my kids are not treated as equals at family functions. For example, my kids got socks from their grandparents-in-law, and they gave their “real” grand daughter a tablet. I put heart and soul into gifts for my S.O.‘s family members, so it just hurts. And then my S.O. clearly favors his daughter- never gets stern with her but will yell at my daughter because she was beating his daughter in a video game. I treat all the children the same. I don’t understand why it is so hard. Am I crazy for thinking it is time to leave? There are a lot of other issues too, but this one irks me the most, especially since my kids see it and ask questions. My kids are 8, 11, and 12 and his daughter is 10 years old.


It’s time to go after 5yrs.


Go for your kids they deserve better


Do your
Kids already have iPads?

id of told them to shove the socks up their arse !!! how dare they

Your not crazy. It all starts with your husband. Ask him how he would feel if you treated his kid and his family like they do. Let him know that you will not be bringing yourself or your kids around any family functions and his daughter will not be allowed to play with your kids.


Nope i would be packing up and leaving. If ur so is treating ur kids like that ontop of ur in laws…just imagine how much its hurting ur kids !!


Favoritism hurts! We went thru so much of this with my family and my husbands family. I dealt with mine, put a foot up some peoples asses, cut them off. He dealt with his. Our kids still don’t see his mom, for other reasons included. After 5 years though, dude is an ass if he treats children differently. Kids are kids, yours, mine, his, theirs… :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Why would you let those people be around your child? I wouldn’t. My MIL plays favorites. I don’t have time for that crap.


I’ve always believed blood is thicker than water. As long as he isn’t physically mean why shouldn’t he love his real daughter more. I would hope you love yours more than his. I’d be furious if I thought my mom loved or bought someone else the same gifts or gave same amount of money to someone other than me and my brother. Same for grandparents.


I would cut contact. My mom is obsessed with my oldest son and has said mean and hate filled comments about my other 2 boys. They are 9,6,4. I went No contact with her for my childrens sake. We are now in court battling for grandparent rights to my older 2 but basically my oldest. $15,000 and counting to protect my children…


Set sm example for your children. You and the children deserve so much better.


Why is this even a question? Women seriously get on here and ask “Should I choose my boyfriend or my kids?” If this is something you have to ask, you don’t need either of the two. :woman_shrugging:t3::woman_shrugging:t3:


I dealt with this for almost 4 years. I am now divorced and so much happier


That sucks please leave dont let your kids be abused


time to go my soon to be mother in law plays favorites and my son sees it he refuses to go near her and that’s fine because he’s learning to ignore those types of family members

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I wouldn’t be letting my husband treat my kids like that I would have left a long time ago my opinion 5 years is too long to stay in a relationship like that


Its time to go. I come from a blended family. My twin and I were 13, my brothers were 16 and 18 when my mother married my stepfather, and even being teenagers he imediently without hesitation accepted all of us as his own children, and his children were 6, 15, and 19 and mom mom did the same, now 9 years later and the word “step” is never spoken, we’re all brothers and sisters, and that’s my dad, and we all get mad if anyone tells us differently.


I would have a frank discussion with my husband and his parents and let them know that if things don’t change you will be contacting a lawyer and there will be a division of property … Their behaviour is disgraceful … poor kids… When he decided to commit to you he also made a commitment to your children …


Time to go. If he cares, he will talk it out with you and the apologize to the kids and do better. Your kids deserve better.