How do you deal with rude family members?

I’m due in a month and am in need of advice with dealing with difficult family members. I’m 19, and this is my first child. When I first found out I was pregnant, my mother told her bf that she’s been with since I was an infant. He is accepting of it now, but told my mom “well, this isn’t my actual grandchild”. I told her it hurt my feelings, and she didn’t see anything wrong with it! I told her, “well, I’m not his actual kid, so what difference does that make?” No response. The most recent incident was when I was talking to my mom about giving birth. She told me, “I swear to god if you start screaming during labor, I’m going to beat your a**. Yeah, it hurts, but it’s not like you’re dying.” It doesn’t make me feel comfortable, and she’s just stressing me out more than anything. How do you handle rude family members? I’m going crazy

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Honestly? Cut them out. They’re causing more harm than good.

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First of all: she doesn’t need to be in the delivery room with you. You do NOT need the negative energy. Secondly, your mindset should be solely focused on a safe and calm delivery for your baby. Good luck honey. It will be okay. :slightly_smiling_face:

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It’s not rude if it’s the truth …truth hurts sometimes

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Your of age don’t have her in the delivery room it’s your choice

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Lol dony deal with the.

Leave. Get a place of your own. They sound toxic. Get an epidural. Don’t tell anyone when you are giving birth unless you want them in the room with you. Stay positive. In one ear out the other

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Your mom does not need to be in labor and delivery room with you. Focus on your baby. There is nothing to do about mom’s boyfriend.

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Yeah…id just cut them off. Why keep that kind of mess around?

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Personally I’d quit talking to them!!

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She wouldn’t be with me in labor and they all sound rude hopefully all goes well for you

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Cut them out. N she shouldn’t be in the delivery room

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Where them scissors at? Cut them off!

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Oh honey. You need to get away from that. I know it’ll be hard since you’re young but you can do so much better. You do not need that. The transition to becoming a mother is hard enough with that negativity.
As for your mother’s comment, that is ignorant of her. You scream, you yell, it part of birth. It hurts and you are allowed to express it however YOU wish. I would keep her OUT of the delivery room personally. You will have enough to deal with.
If you need someone to talk to about birth or anything feel free to message me. :heart:

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Leave her ass out of the birth room and your life

Have you told them how their comments are making you feel? I’d start there. If that doesn’t work I’d disengage. Pregnant, birth, and being a new mother is hard. During labor and when you’re first getting used to having a baby you’re not going to want anything else stressful around you. I’d honestly stop talking to anyone who was causing negative feelings :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Girl, you can do this, I would have a friend or cousin or aunt in the delivery room with you not your mother. That is the most rude thing to say to someone because they are in pain their going to beat their ass? Disgusting, and I certainly wouldn’t trust her to babysit. Besides everyone’s labour’s are different, maybe hers were easy? Regardless you need someone supportive, anyone who’s not has GOT TO GO! I have cut a lot of my family and I’m so much better off. You can do this girl, you will be a good mom to your baby and strong and independent. Don’t listen to the haters who want to put you down.

Toxic family members don’t get a place in my life. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.

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Rude family members are dumped, let them want or need you. You or the baby don’t need the stress or toxicity of nonsense. It’s too much energy wasted

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Your mum sounds like an asshole… pick a new birth partner if baby daddy not in the picture… your mums boyfriend is a dick… who cares if it’s not biological his grandchild… why even say that? Who cares! And thirdly, you’re bringing a baby into this world at a very young age… you’ll need to mature up and ignore the rude people, get yourself some good solid support because you’re going to need it… good luck :blush: