How do you deal with stress as a first time mom?

Mommies how do you deal with stress? I’m a ftm and my baby is teething bad. I feel like she’s never happy with anything I try to do for her. She can be fed burped changed etc and the minute I leave to go pee or to try to make food for myself she screams. Yes I know that it’s normal and that’s what they do but it’s frustrating when I’m a stay at home mom and am home alone with her. I can’t get anything done and can barely even eat. My mom would watch her start crying for no reason and she tells my daughter she needs to let me eat lol. I’m just so frustrated. How do you find yourself again? How do you make time for yourself? What tips for teething? Thank you for listening to my rant I just have no one to talk to.

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Sometimes you have to walk away. They’ll be ok

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I know its burdensome but i carry mine around. Let her chew on something carrots, straws, anything that is cold. Your doing great. Im a ftm also.

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First thing you need to know is crying will not hurt baby at all and you need to walk away sometimes and let them tire themselves out a bit or you will go nuts trying to please them i just had my third baby a month ago and i totally understamd getting overwhelmed. My mom taught me one trick for teething and it worked amazing and i used it for my other two and will use it for this one as well its called a sugar tit get a damp washcloth and dip in a little bit of sugar they love it so keep chewing on it and the washcloth helps teeth break through gums

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It will be better after she turn one year, until then you need to handle it

To relax i go o walks or on our paddle boat around our lake.

depending how old she is, I made popsicle out of banana baby food and watered it down stir til smooth put it in a popsicle mold and freeze. my little is content as can be with them. I’ve also heard of moms making popsicles with their breast milk for the same purpose

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I’m 32 with 3 kids…my sister just had her first at 40…tell you the same thing I told her…put that baby down…let her cry a bit…she needs to find her independence just as much as you do…if you let it continue itll only get worse…its hard and it took 3 kids to master this…one a little easier then the next. But she’ll get threw it and you’ll be more relived…

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I got one of these & I bought frozen fruit and my daughter LOVED IT. it helped her teeth finally break thru, tasted good (frozen strawberries and frozen peaches) & helped with the pain. this thing was a SAVIOR

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It’s just kinda hard. My baby is 5 months old. He’s my last I have an 18, 13, and 6 year old and I honestly forgot how hard babies are. You’re right nothing gets done. I shower at night after baby goes to bed because it’s impossible to do so in the day. I literally work around his schedule. I get really burned out and at the end of the day my other kids and family get whatever is left of me so I go to bed full of guilt every night because I suck as a mom and wife and my laundry is backed up BUT I know it won’t last long and I also know I’ll miss my baby being this little, so each morning I wake up and try with a new start attitude. Msg Me if you ever need to vent I haven’t ate today eithet😉

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I’ll talk to you have a lot of time

Two words momma:
BABY WEAR!
it will save you many headache and lots of aggravation doing house hold chores. Just strap em in and get to workin

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I feel like i never have a chance to have time to myself until they are at least 1 and 1/2… both my kids are very needy and want to be around me and be held or played with 24/7… so u chose, give ur all and know it wont last forever OR like some other moms are saying, let the baby cry it out and do what u need to do (personally i could not do that so i sacrificed my sanity for a few years) :woman_shrugging:t4: all babies do that, its all about how YOU chose to handle it…

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Lots of patience and prayers ! This is a trying time but it too , shall pass . I did a whole lot of praying . Babies are just not too happy when teething . Tylenol helps . Anything you can put on the gums can’t hurt . They love popsicles . Frozen wash rags . One day , you’ll miss these times and the years of having babies to rock .

And crying it out (appropriately) is so important. We are already doing so much for our little ones, give them some independence. And that starts with self soothing.
18mo, very independent, sleeps in his own bed and has a bedtime. We just got off the paci and potty is next.
Sometimes I have to put on my headphones and let him yell about it until he realizes crying isnt getting him what he wants, so he has no choice but to try and communicate instead of tears to get his way.
Worth it.
And a baby monitor is needed

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Breathe…thats all you can do. I smoke so I have that to go to.

This is my every day struggle my daughter cries when put down she refuses to go to my bf screams bloody murder turns red and I know nothing wrong after being fed burped changed but she has no choice because I need to eat shower and get things done so I’ll put her in her swing right in the kitchen with me if she cries binky if u use them and she sits crying or not I know shes fine and nothing is wrong she does not cry long also try swaddling that helps my little , cold bagel , new wet rag

I also found babies feed off our emotions. if ur stressed anxious etc they will be ad well.
like others said crying is ok sometimes putting baby in crib or somewhere safe and walk away for a min and then come back its ok

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Let the crying happen,
Leave the baby somewhere you can see her and go outside and catch a breath even if she’s crying. Your mental health is very important. Just remember it will pass.