How do you deal with the pain of giving birth naturally?

I’m for the epidural… I went in with the hope of not taking it, and also had decided against an episiotomy… but, when she started coming… that went right out the window. Child birth is the only pain in life I have ever felt that forced me to vomit… epidural, epidural, epidural. My daughter is beautiful and perfect as far as I can tell. : )

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I had five natural births and got an epidural for my sixth - I’m legit mad no one tried to talk me into before it was so much better

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So…

When I was pregnant with my first kiddo my grandma, who had 10 kiddos, no drugs (obviously… since it wasn’t a thing back then) and no stitches said her doctor told her to just relax… just breath. She told me to do the same so that’s what I tried to do… I’ve had 3 kiddos, 2 with an epidural that worked and the 1st one that didnt and no stitches and I just kept telling myself to relax!

Walk around,breathing,good support system and ice chips.I would get a doula or somethings.Labor should actually be faster since it’s your second natural.My 1st was 20 hrs,my second was 5 hrs w/irregular but hard contracting.

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Just curious as to why you don’t want one? My doctor told me that you wouldn’t have an organ removed without being medicated, why would you try to have a baby with medication. I had one with all 3 of mine. I was able to relax and spend some quiet time with my hubby before babies came.

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Stay out of bed as long as possible, move around, use the ball, get on all 4, just find what works, breathing focus,…I had 2 vbac all natural 22 hours an 13 hrs of labor 8 and 9 lb babies.

Have you taken birthing classes that teach you how to breathe to help the pain

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I kept reminding myself the pain is only temporary just breathe you can do this. My first was in such a hurry to meet us I didn’t have a chance for an epidural. I kept pep talking in my head, you did it once you can do it again. Definitely practice breathing exercises, worked well and something you can squeeze when the pain hits.

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I had 8 children. Two without anesthesia by choice, two without anesthesia because I arrived at the hospital too late and 4 with various kinds of anesthesia. They all have been healthy and above average in intelligence. I say give me the anesthesia (my child bearing days are over. If you do decide to deliver without anesthesia, there are breathing exercises you can learn for various stages of the delivery that help, but it is never pain free.

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My friend hired a dula or a birthing coach - I strongly suggest you do that. You need a certified person to teach you all the exercises and techniques you need to fight the lengthy, pain of child labor and delivery.

Back in the day you did Lamaze classes. They teach you to breath through the contractions. I had five children all natural. It’s also important to have a doctor that’s willing to work with you. Make sure they understand you don’t want one

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Why is it such a big deal? Do you think it makes you a better mother? I had one natural, one emergency c section, I don’t even think about it. I did not know it was a contest.

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I had both of my boys natural… I just concentrated on what I needed to do…

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I had my four children all natural. I for sure thought with my third child I would use epidural, but I had an amazing midwife and nurses at that time. I actually gave birth to him standing with my legs apart. It was so much easier, less pain and discomfort. With my fourth, I kept walking, stretching. When I knew the pain was not subsiding, we went in and I was 8cm dilated. I just could not lay in the hospital bed, I had to sit or stand. I had him almost two hours later. Just breathe in your nostrils and out your mouth. You’ll get through it. A yoga ball does work. Helps ease the lower back pain and stretch your muscles down there so no tearing happens. Wish I knew all this with my first! Best of luck.

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So funny to read all these, women have been giving birth for hundreds of years without anything. 2 without anything. We are so spoiled its a natural process, thats what we do.

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Lamaze class and learning to breath the right way through contractions helped me a ton!

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I gave birth to 4 boys…initially I wanted to go naturally with my first born I was in labor for 12 hours. My birth canal was so tiny my son’s head was big the pain was awful, therefore I had to get epidural. The rest of my 3 I had them all natural! My oldest is 27 and youngest is 22 year’s old.

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I had two daughters natural. I was determined to do it, as it was a natural life process as the women generation before me did. My husband was very supportive by my side, to squeeze his hand and make me focus on breathing techniques through contractions. The babies were 8 lbs and 6 lbs. You CAN do it if you have the mindset and support!

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Im 56. Started at 18. Had 3 all 6 yrs apart natural birth only a local anesthetic. 2nd was hardest with some complications but would do it again. No epidural .

When your contractions get stronger. Sit in the jacuzzi if they have in the hospital. I did that with my third one. Also you can lay on your left side with a pillow in between your legs. The jacuzzi helped me when my contractions got stronger. Let the water hit your lower back where the water comes out from.