How do you deal with your fussy kids?

It’s a just thing he’s going through my son o e time for two month all he would eat was spaghetti o or hot dogs just give his favorite plus something extra he isn’t gonna starve if he doesn’t eat dinner

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I always try to make at least I thing they like wether it be a side dish or main course. Also by involving them in cooking makes them more apt to try new foods. I never forced my kids to eat something they didn’t like. I hated Thanksgiving because we were forced to eat a little bit of everything. I hated turnip still do.

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My son is not a meat eater never has been. If he eats meat he gets really sick so he will eat vegetables or fruit but if he doesn’t like what we have. He will say no thank you and make cereal for himself. But he is also 9 years old. Sometimes he will say he’s not hungry because he ate a big lunch at school.

Your the parent if he doesn’t want to eat what you fixed just say ok I’ll fix you a plate eat it or not it’s the microwave you ARE the BOSS not him

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Who is the parent in your house? You or the kid? You set the rules and boundaries and be consistent. If your kid don’t eat what you cook let it go to bed hungry. Don’t give in. No snacks or anything different. A kid will not starve itself to death.

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I was always a you eat what I cook mom with few exceptions. One think my pediatrician said to try was having my picky eater pick a color and each time that week I cooked something that color he had to eat some. Trust me he became creative in colors but I just bought lots of food coloring. Haha. Who knew you could make carrots blue!!
Also I have heard of moms having their children all plan the menus be night a week. Then they also helped cook it when it was their night. That way they all got to help and learned meal planning.
Good luck. My picky eater is now 30 and eats everything

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You’re not a restaurant and menu. Put his meal on the table if he doesn’t eat so be it. Don’t make his meal every evening.

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Truly it’s just not worth the stress this is causing him or you, if all he will eat is a bowl of cereal three,four times a day, then let him eat what he will eat, both of you will get past this, you only have to win the war not the battle, pick your battle, this isn’t it, as long as your not having issues in other areas of his life and behavior, he will out grow this, it truly could be a sensory issue, enjoy your child, good luck

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If he wont eat what is in front of him, he gets nothing until the next meal.

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I had one who was fussy. He did try new foods and if he did truly not like a food I never made him eat it. I was not a short order cook at all lol but I did try to cook what was appealing to all.

I got tired of my kids complaining about “not liking” dinner. So I made all three of them find a recipe from a cookbook, make a grocery list and cook with my assistance. They complained a lot less when they saw what went into meal prep. As adults, they eat just about anything. I like the idea of having them make a sandwich AFTER the family is finished. Great suggestion!

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My kids can get like that too. Our rule is you eat what is fixed or have a peanut butter sandwich. I got tired of never having different foods because the youngest refused to try new foods. Luckily she has since started at least tasting what I fix and has realized that there are other foods out there besides mac and cheese and chicken nuggets. We also cut out all snacks between meals to make sure the problem wasn’t that they were full at dinnertime.

My oldest went through a phase where he would only eat spaghetti. Only spaghetti. Nothing else. After two months, he was done with it. He’s 27 now with a baby of his own. We all survived.

My daughter had issues with texture and overcoming visuals that made her not want to even try certain things. (Sensory issues) She learned to cook her favorites so if I wasn’t making it she made it herself. It took many years but she started eating more and more things. She is 23 and still kind of picky but has a healthier diet.

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I was a picky eater when I was little…the doctor told my mom “not to worry she won’t starve, she’ll eat when she gets hungry enough.” My parents were kind enough to have something I would eat at dinner, I wasn’t a meat eater when I was younger and limited veggies and starch.

If he’s growing and meeting milestones I would say don’t stress, but whatever you do check with your pediatrician for guidance.

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You are setting that Child up for a VERY unhappy life — you cook he eats when he gets hungry ,do not ask him So. So sorry for child that is so unloved that a Parent will not prepare then for what life lies ahead

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let him cook ; play in tub with boats and such water is amazingly restorative. ask him ; ask his teacher if she could comment on cause of this . is he grouchy on weekends and vacations ? good luck

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No snacks!
Set a regimen.
He has to eat dinner (whatever is served) for a full week in order to get a snack.
Be consistent; every week!

i think all this punitive attitude makes a very angry child. parenting is not for sissies let’s try and figure out why he is so unreasonable. it may be a very real issue

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I find it very interesting, all the solutions on children eating… I was married 56 years and interestingly, really didn’t have a great problem with my 2 girls… One actually was very picky. the younger one would eat anything. The picky one had a problem with textures… Did not make her eat food that she didn’t like…Always had something for meals that all liked so wasn’t really a huge problem… I definitely cooked meals my husband liked… Was in the days that Moms did the cooking and we ate together at 5:30 every evening . Was in the days when Mom’s were stay at home… I know it’s so different now, so many Mom’s work and coming home for meals is stressful .My thought is if you have a picky eater let them eat what they want even if it is cereal , grilled cheese. pbandJ. I would never spank a child for not eating… Good way to have an eating disorder . I can’t remember ever having a problem as a child except I would never eat Liver and onions, my Moms favorite …She always had a different dinner for the rest of our family. Meals really weren’t a problem for my family… My picky eater always had something she liked… Anyway, that’s my story… Good Luck all of you gals…:wink::slight_smile: