How do you feel about having kids far apart?

I just wanted to see how other moms felt about having kids years apart. I’ve been with my husband 12 years, married 10. We have a 10-year-old boy. I’m 29. We’ve wanted more children, but we started a business around the time our son was born, and things were comfortable but tight. Now ten years later, we can afford another child. My husband down for whatever I want. I’m just so torn. I want another baby, but do I want to start all the way over? If I did have another child, they would be 11 years apart were kinda in mind set if it happens cool, if not that’s ok too. Am I just kind of heartbroken that my little boy is getting more independent by the day? I’m just curious how other moms with kids with an age gap like that works for them. I just have a lot of feelings.

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I have a 25 year old a 19 year old a 14 year old and an 11 year old… I guess when you have all the in-between it doesn’t seem to be that far apart but yeah I have my oldest and youngest are 14 years apart I think it’s great do whatever you’re comfortable with… and you will be starting over again so have a baby shower .

Will you Regret Not having any more? That was my question for my last one.

My son and daughter are 7 years apart. Then, I had another baby that would’ve been 12 years younger than my son. Sorry, the baby was born too early and he passed. But, I say, do it! I had my son when I was 18, my daughter when I was 25, the baby when I was 30. I’d do it if I wanted more children.

My oldest is 14 ill be giving birth in 6 weeks it happens 🤷 middle one is 6.5 none of them planned they came when the gods decided they should

My 3 kids were 6 years apart…didnt plan it but happened that way.

My kids are 10 5 and 2. The bigger they are the more helpful they are.

My oldest is 8 years older than my second and 14 years older than my 3 rd they are all very close to each other

I have a 12 year gap between my 2nd and 3rd… I love it :slight_smile:

My daughter is 15 and I have a 13 year old son and 9 month old baby. Having a baby is a lot of work but they are only little for so long then, poof…off to kindergarten. You will regret it if you don’t. It will be busy but if you want a wee addition you’ve got the support you need. Good luck and enjoy :tulip:

There was 9 years difference in my son and daughter.It was like starting all over BUT so what, he adored his baby sister and he was a lot of help too.If yall want to have another baby I say go for it.

My dad had another baby with his wife at the time and there’s a 10 year difference between him and myself. Honestly, I love it! It’s such a different bond than what I have with my other siblings who are closer to my age. I almost have a maternal type of bond with him.
I think your son would love it as well. Best of luck to you.

me & my sister are 11 years apart… not too sure how my mom handled it, tbh. when I was a baby my sister tried to sell me in a yard sale, a few years later I attacked her as “the debil”, & then our mom basically had her raising me… now we’re pretty close, it only took 14 years.

Age gap isn’t a problem at all… it’s actually nice having an older child helping out and enjoying the new addition :blush:

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If your son is good with it and allllll the changes that come with it, not really a reason to hesitate.
My kids are 22, 14, and 2. I wish they hadn’t been quite so far apart, but God gave me them when he wanted to. First is not biologically mine. Neither of the bio ones were planned.

My oldest is 14, her sister 9 aaaaaaand I’m currently pregnant. I would like to have them closer in age but i waited until it was more financially feasible and i was emotionally ready. (My kids father passed away)

I’ve got 4 kids they are 11,9,3,&6months and I love the age gap and the relationship my eldest has with the 3 year old and how much of a help she is with the 6month old. My 9 year old loves to help with the baby but does like to pick fights with the 3 year old.

I say go for it! I always wanted to have another child so that my daughter would have a sibling but it didn’t work out. I regret it so much. I don’t think an age gap would be a problem at all

My nephew is 10 years older than my niece he’s now 22 and her 12 and they’re best of friends

I think its awesome. I am the oldest by 10 yrs w my sis and my bro was born when i was 16. I think its better bc kids get bonding time w parents. I loved my childhood and that time w my mom. No jealousy when siblings were born!