How do you get back into the dating game after 20 years of marriage?

Currently going thru separation from my husband after 20 years together, 10 years of marriage, 2 little kids. Not sure how to date again? Did you want to go wild after a break-up? Do you want another relationship? I’m so unsure how to deal with people after being with the same dude all my 20s and 30s. I hate small talk and texting, so it is really weird.

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Why would you want to do that? Learn how to enjoy you first. Learn what you like to do, go eat, watch. Breathe…

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I was in relationships for the past 30 yrs, 6 kids, 4 grandkids… so tired of giving the best part of myself… when I become single again one day… I plan to grow old single and focus on myself!

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Make sure you love yourself, dont go looking, make sure you do what ever activity you want. If your horny make sure u don’t get D whipped and have a good time

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I dated and found nothing but liars, cheaters, bullshit and drama. I decided that my focus is on my 9 year old twins daughters and nothing else! They r my world and only little once. Everything else can wait, especially men!!

Was with my husband 14 years. When we broke up…I ended up with someone I knew from wayyyy back. Its so much easier than getting to know someone new. There are too many diseases out there to be “dating” people in this day and age. Good luck!

Take the time to grieve the relationship before you move on. And take things slow with new romance. Kids come 1st always

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My marriage was so awful I didn’t even think about dating. I focused on my kids. This is a big change for them and dating should be the last thing on your mind right now. Be single and find yourself. So many people just jump into something new. Im not saying forever but take at least a year and focus on the kids

I can understand if you feel lonely, as being in a relationship is all you know. I was in a relationship for 11yrs with my highschool sweetheart. Take time for yourself & really connect with & support your children; as they will need it even if it doesn’t show. There is plenty of time to find someone new but also they come when you least expect it. Good luck with your new journey. :blush:

I feel it depends on why the marriage ended. I was with my exhusband for 16 years. He was horrible to me. Physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. We had 4 children together who I did not want them to think that kind of a relationship was normal. I was done about 4 years prior to the separation. I had been emotionally removed from it for so long that I had no problem wanting to be in another relationship very soon after. Randomly it happened and we’ve been together now for 4 1/2 years and it’s been the happiest time of my life. So full of support and love. We are expecting our first child together next February. I could see not wanting to jump into a new relationship right away if a marriage ended when you didn’t want it to. It all depends on the situation. My kids always came first and still do to this day. They get to see kind and loving people be together in a relationship now.

Why bother? My mother was widowed when she was 52. She never would have married again. She had a male friend for a bit but it’s so not worth the trouble…

Wait wtf. You haven’t even fully separated and you’re looking to date? Wow. How about grieving and processing 20 years of marriage ending first. That’s just ridiculous. How about focusing on the kids whose lives will never be the same. Honestly, my advice is stop being so selfish.

Focus on you and your children heal your heart first

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Go out & find yourself again. I don’t think jumping right back into a relationship is a good idea. Enjoy your life and your children. They only stay little for a short time.

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Some GREAT advice there .
Just look at making new friends( F&M) who have similar interests to you , FOCUS on getting to know yourself as your own person .DO NOT RUSH into a new relationship

I wouldnt even think or worry about it now.

Give yourself a break and focus on yourself.

I would take things slow, you never wanna rush into another relationship. Give yourself time to get back in touch with yourself, find out new things you like to do. Most importantly make this time to heal from the separation. :heart:

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Give yourself time. Enjoy life. Love yourself.

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take time to find your new self! You will have some ups and downs but you will find a whole other version of you, you never knew you had. You got this!