How do you handle an overbearing mother in law?

My mother-in-law wants herself to be involved in everything. She feels entitled every time, like paying monthly obligations in electricity and water Bills. She will text me if I have arrears and wants my husband to be always by her side. I know she does like me, and she’s showing it to me by disrespecting my opinion. How to handle monster-in-law?


Honestly ur husband needs to stand up for u and tell her to back off or she will never stop. If he is unwilling to do so then i would really sit and think long and hard if it’s worth staying.


She sounds lonley and bored.encourage her to try new things.join some kind of groups so she has less time to focus on you.i am stuck home now and probably drive my daughter crazy sometimes asking her to send me pics of grandbabys, that i see often lol.but she probably knows im just bored because she is always so gracious.

If he doesn’t stand up to her then he doesn’t respect you plain and simple


This needs more information… For instance if your living in her home and she wants the money so she can pay bills, give it up. If your living in your own place if she is paying your bills helping you out either find a way to make more money to pay for it yourself or deal with it. Putting on airs? This needs more information. Sometimes mother in laws can start out as a nightmare and turn into wonderful women you come to love. Everyone has their quirks but she raised someone you chose to be with so find a way to speak to your husband and work it out


Mind is on no contact 4 being just like that n she’s queen of the dramatic narcissistically disordered people.

I grey rocked the shit out of her told her off every chance I get and as of Monday no contact n yesterday blocked on life n I have never felt better

We stopped talking to mine because we had enough with her Sometimes even talking to them they don’t even listen . Try with yours tell her how you feel or tell your husband to tell her


How does she know your personal finances ???


If your not living in her home,you pay your own bills and never ask her for financial help or burden her with your troubles,politely tell her to butt out and your husband should support this.When he married you,its up to you and him to figure out on your own unless she is invited in.Good luck.

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Time to have a chat with your husband. He’s the only one who can fix the situation - had similar issues and hubby made a point of laying out his priorities to mom

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She pays your bills?


Well i just had my 30th Anniversary and yet my mother in law said in my wedding day this wont last… im sorry to say it didnt get better through the years it got worse until i had to basically cut ties with her… i only see her once or twice a yr i cant take her drama… all my kids are grown now so they can all make their own choices to see … i can tell you that my daughter got married a little over a yr ago and Had my first granddaughter in June and she is trying to do to my daughter the crap she did to me… always stocking her complaining , she dont want to follow the rules of Covid when she met the baby. But thankfully my daughter is strong she puts her in her place…


I’m confused… do you live with your mother-in-law? If you do, then pay up. What do you mean by arrears? Like, you’re not paying the full amount of what you owe to her? Times are shitty, so everybody needs their money to pay what they can. Can’t fault her for that. She’s standing up for herself “if” you are living in her house.

You don’t ignore her!!It will overwhelm you if you try!!

Why is she involved in paying your bills? Is it her money? If so, then she’s entitled. If not, tell her you’re more than capable. Or do it before she’s around.
Your husband needs to talk to her regardless !

My ex wouldn’t stand up to his mother and they pretty much kicked the kids and I out. (It was her house because she didn’t want her son to move out so when he husband died she bought a huge house). I’m glad I’m out of there. It was so stressful.

You are living my life! My MIL lives with us and makes life so hard on me while her son does no wrong…

This is already been asked another group or page. Lol again Facebook cannot make your decisions for you. Other people on Facebook cannot make your decisions for you. Only you and your husband can. So I’m not going to say everything I’ve already said in my first comment but it comes down to listen you have an amazing sounding loving caring mother-in-law that wants to help you and do things for you because she loves you and cares about you okay everybody always feels like their mother up there butt in their business okay. honestly coming from somebody who’s folks really don’t care if she has a place to live or anything else and never really got to know their granddaughter and their granddaughter tried as a kid wanting to know where her grandparents was and why they didn’t love her dude I would seriously cherish your mother-in-law to the fullest. I would just set boundaries and let your husband know dude. Your mom you have to stand up to her that dude that might backfire in his face if he doesn’t wrong he may create a mother who doesn’t want nothing to do with you guys and I won’t see her grandbabies. I know it seems like everything’s wrong you know what I mean but honestly wants you and your child goes through a grandparent not loving or caring about you guys or wanting to be there for birthdays or Christmas’s or anything else like prom anything like that you know I would actually just try to sit down with her and set boundaries instead of being mean. because it sounds like you have a loving caring mother in law but if you mess it up you might not have that loving caring mother-in-law anymore and that’s what I told Jordan about his mother Joy I said you better come pick up your mother dude she loves and cares for you right now one day when you turn around and you’re really wanting her to love and care for you she may not want to love and care for you anymore. Lol

Frankly this post does not make much sense, more information is needed. Is she offering to help with the bills? Or is she paying them without your permission? Is your husband an only child or the youngest, believe me mothers have a hard time letting their boys go especially the youngest. Does she have health issues, is she living alone and lonely, or has your husband been the only one she can count on when she needs help. You really need to talk this over with your husband and either be glad she is willing and able to help, or tell her you don’t want the financial help. Maybe even some family counseling between the three of you to learn communication and respect, it also seems you don’t respect the relationship between mother and son (even if she still has the mental umbilical cord attached too strongly) remember mom has been there all of his life, you are still new in his life to her. There are worse things she could be doing besides making sure you have bill money.

Do not have her know anything about your bills if she ask tell her I will tell you Amoi t if you want to pay . If she is reading your mail have son put a stop to it if you live in her house get a post office box