How do you handle being in a relationship with a pathological liar?

I’ve been in an 11-year relationship with a pathological liar. Even the smallest things he lies about. I’ve invested so many years and three kids later I don’t know what to think anymore. It’s easier said than done to just leave. We are very intimate and say he will always be in love with me, but clearly, his actions don’t prove it: mind games, lies, neglect, mental abuse. Anyone have advice or wise words to get me through these hard times? Xo

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Advice: leave!

How r u very intimate with him if u said theres mental abuse and neglect​:thinking::thinking:

He has a psychological problem and no sense of control

U gave him way too many yrs of ur life
I really don see how u handled that all these yrs

If u want to leave
Make sure u process it in court so u can get majority of parenting time

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He won’t change so you have to. No one should have to tolerate verbal abuse…intimacy is the least thing you should worry about

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WALK AWAY. You’ve wasted enough years already.

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I was in one for 10 years yes and kid and yes it was hard to walk away but also now the best decision I ever made and now I am in a loving relationship and it is amazing it took 3 years of being alone but in that time I found myself again and knew I would not settle for less than I deserved

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You waited 11 years and he still hasn’t changed. He doesn’t live you if he treats you that way

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You handle it by leaving the relationship. Trust is integral in a relationship and they have beyond proven they are unable to be trustworthy.

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Leave or check his ass … He only treats you the way you allow him to

One question. Can you take 11 more years of this?

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You have to leave. My ex husband was a pathological liar and a narcissist. He told me he was never married before… come to find out, I was his 4th ex wife

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He will continue to lie and treat you badly due to you allowing it. You need to leave simple as that and i damn sure aint intimate with anyone who lies

Sounds like he has narcissistic tendencies as well. Honestly, I wouldn’t stay if I were you.

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I can relate I’m going through the same thing and have been for about 4 yrs now . I just keep thinking that we have gotten so far or have made some improvement in the relationship or … like he is finally getting into the idea of our relationship our family , as soon as he turns and walks away he becomes that lying , cheating , bitch I don’t know you piece of shit. No matter how well we connect in the bedroom or as parents or as a man and woman I’m never enough to make him someone he isn’t, a real man . It’s nothing I’m doing wrong or aren’t doing it’s just who he is and I’ve realized that but last night he really really made me see that he mean and really there is nobody home he is an empty shell . I know I don’t need that or anyone else I need to repair the damages and lick my wounds and realize that I am a beautiful person and feeling like the one I love is not to be trusted or like he will make a fool out of me as usual and none of his friends are going to say anything to him ,or me about it even.if I ask… and like I’m not good enough or he would rather make me think that I’m crazy or doubt my natural gift of flash image visions by lying no none of that is good . It only gets worse because there is nobody home he is an empty shell. You deserve the truth just as much as I or anyone else does always . Take care be strong trust your instincts.

How are you going to pretty much say your miserable but dont want to leave? If your so miserable you need to leave for your kids sake not just your own …what kind of question is this? Just to get a bunch of comments c’mon now

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I wouldn’t, that isnone thing I will not tolerate PERIOD!

If your partner cannot be honest with you then in my opinion s/he is not worth having around .

The best way to handle it is to leave!! Do it now. They don’t change and the lies just get worse and worse. I’ve been through it. He ended up getting abusive both emotionally and physically and that’s when I realized I was an idiot for not leaving sooner. I let myself be a victim when I knew better all along. Run now!!

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Yhea get out it only gets worse

The longer you stay, the worse it gets and your kids will learn this too.

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Leave. I wasted 12 years with two kids it ended with cheating. You deserve better and so do your kids.