How do you handle the low parts in your life and feeling like a failure?

Does anyone ever feel like even though you are surrounded by people you have no one to talk to? Little back story. I lost my job back in February. I was there for ten months and really loved it. We had just moved into a new house two weeks before. Then I lost my job. I was really scared for a long time. My mom helped me a lot financially. My husband has a really good job and makes good money, but his spending is way out of control. So we are in a lot of debt. And we keep going into more. I decided to take courses to get my CNA. I took the class portion and did well. I started the clinical and couldn’t get past a very bad feeling, so I stopped. I took another clinical class a couple of months later and got through it. Right before I took my test and landed a job, I found out I was pregnant with my surprise baby (5 months along now) I took my test and passed one portion but failed another, so now I’m waiting to retake that part. I ended up having to quit my job. I did get bc this pregnancy isn’t going as well as my first with my daughter. Life right now just seems to suck. I feel like a complete failure at everything. And I really have no one to talk to. Also, other stuff going on with my mom and grandma medically have me in a panic. I also suffer from anxiety. I’m going to talk to my doctor about something I can take for it during my pregnancy bc I can feel it’s getting worse. How do you get through the low parts of life? I feel like I’m constantly on autopilot. I feel like I’m not good enough. Not a good enough mom to my daughter or my son. I keep comparing myself to other moms I see and keep asking myself why I can’t just feel and be normal. I guess this was more of a vent but if anyone has any advice or just to let me know I’m not alone in how I feel I would really appreciate it. I just have no one in my life who seems even to let me vent without throwing all my failures in my face, and it’s really starting to affect me. If you got this far, thank you so much for taking the time to read it.

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Sometimes we have to go through some storms before the sunshine in our lives. You are not a failure, what you need to do from here is write down your goals & how you plan to accomplish them.

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I feel you I’m there now girly. Chin up. You are not alone

“Comparison is the thief of joy” I know it’s hard, but you have to know that it’s temporary. And enjoy the little things, try to have a positive mindset. You have a roof over your head, you get to stay home with your kids, you have a husband that is obviously there for you. Some people go through low times and also have nothing. Hang in there :slightly_smiling_face:

Get on meds and get to a counselor

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I have found that working out or even walking helps my anxiety so much!!!

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It seems like you are carrying a lot of issues on your shoulders that you have no control over. I know it’s difficult to let go of worry and stress. I struggle with it everyday. It is possible to remind yourself when you feel it is consuming you, that you can only control what you can control. Everything else is in Gods hands and it is His plan. Just know that everything will work out if you keep pressing forward. I hope all gets better for you and congratulations

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Seek professional help , u are definately not alone

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No mom is perfect honey. We all have our freak outs and we all bump that babys head on the car door :joy:
Seriously though, try not compare. Grass is always greener and they’re thinking the same.
I’d advise a counsellor and some support. I’d also maybe try a financial advisor to try get the debt down and give hubby a good talking to. Take control of finances and give him an allowance until you are in a better place financially.
Look after yourself and your babies x x

Just take one day at a time stop comparing yourself to others. Communication with those around you is key, cut down on spending so you won’t feel as guilty. Is there classes you can take to pass the cna test? (I think that’s what I’ve read) or YouTube videos on the subject. I bet you’re doing better than you think.

Pray…a lot of people LOOK happy doesn’t mean they are…probably hormones are also messing with you…find joy in the little things in the end it what matters…prayers going up

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You are good enough and your children love you! Don’t compare yourself to other moms, we all struggle. I would talk to your OB and see if there’s something they can prescribe that can help you. Keep you head up :heart:

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It is ok to not be okay. This is something our Pastor always says at church. I will say that everyone goes through difficult situations in life. You are enough to your children never doubt that. Be strong for them! Life is not easy but you can think positive and push forward. I will be bold enough to say find a church and connect with God’s people. Yes it is awkward and takes you way out of your comfort zone but it is the biggest blessing ever! Do not worry about anything, instead pray about everything​:heart::heart: You are not alone. We have an amazing father God who loves us and provides for us.

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Pregnancy has always been hard for me. I can’t remember one pregnancy where I wasn’t depressed and anxious. I literally counted the days until I gave birth because the post pardum effects are 1000 times easier than my best pregnant day.

It’s hard to ignore the green eyed monster, but you really have to learn to do it. You have at least two kids already, on your third I presume, your life will be different and your chaos more than your one or two child counterparts. I know a little about this because I have 9. I’ve learned a lot over the years and the best thing I’ve learned is to stop comparing myself to others.

You are allowed to fail tests or parts of tests. The important thing is that you’re trying again. You don’t have to get everything the first time. You’re not a young student who’s biggest stress is the upcoming midterm, even then, failing tests happens. You’re a grown woman, a wife, a mother, you have sick family members, money stress…you’re dealing with a lot right now AND you’re pregnant.

The impending doom feeling will go away eventually, for me, it’s the day I give birth.

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Everyone makes it look easy but life is a series of ups and downs. Talk to your doctor. Stop comparing yourself to others and enjoy those babies. Good luck and sending prayers to you.

I live with man for 5 years and felt alone the whole time. So very sad. Not there anymore and I am happy

You have much to be grateful for . You have a husband & healthy children .
Your trying your best in school .
You are not alone . I’m proud of you .
Just put one foot in front of the other . You will make it Momma . It’s kinda like —- how do you eat a elephant , one bite at a time . You will be ok

I went through alot of downs when I was pregnant from the people around me as well. Sometimes we all jus gotta take a step back evaluate, set a plan in motion and well push through it. I hope everything gets better I really do.

Medication is not the answer, it’s just a band aid for the really tough times. Counseling, groups, meetings, ect is how I changed for the better and today, I know that taking that leap and taking it seriously despite what the people around me thought was THE BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE! Life still gets hard, it’s there right now matter of fact, but I stay on the right path and just concentrate on the only thing I can control which is myself🤷‍♀️

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When you reflect on it all bad…seems like hell when you look at all you still have to be grateful for everything looks alot different