How do you handle toddler tantrums in stores?

My son is just about a month shy of his 2nd birthday, and he’s changing from this mostly peaceful toddler to a monster. I don’t know what to do. I need to go to grocery stores and other places to run errands, but only after a few minutes of being there, he gets out of control. I don’t know how to handle it. Yesterday I walked into Walmart, and he was mad because I wouldn’t open a toy he found for him, and he started trying to throw himself back and cry. I put the toy down and walked right out (I was in and out in less than 5 minutes). I went home without the things I need. How do you guys handle your toddlers?

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I learned if you take them somewhere like Wal-Mart, you tell them if they act good they can get a toy. If you start out this way its a lot easier.

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A lot of times we pick out a hot wheels car for .99 and I do just open the stupid thing so he has something to play with. We just give the cashier the box at checkout never had anyone say anything to us hes 3 now with an extensive hot wheels collection lmao

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Tantrum= were leaving the store right away.

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Either ignore them and continue with your errands/shopping or leave and take them home. Also take advantage of curbside pickup. Almost everywhere offers it now.

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I beat my kids asses. Period. Maybe it’s because of the way I was raised, but My parents didn’t put up with that bullshit and neither did I (my youngest is 7 now). No, I did not throw them to the ground and beat the shit out of them, but yes, I did smack a hand, smack a mouth or smack a butt.

I’m an OLD SCHOOL PARENT of 30yrs, You handled it the way I did, Do NOT barter with your children for acceptable behavior it’s to be EXPECTED not NEGOTIATED for. Do NOT Cave, after a few times of LEAVING with nothing he will understand Fit throwing gets him NOWHERE! Good job Momma!!!

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Leave or let them cry it out. You can’t not get what you need.

I always bring snacks or go straight to the snack aisle and give him something tasty to munch on and keep occupied…

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I put my daughter in the cart and get what I need. I avoid the toy section unless I want her to get a toy.

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Orange tic tacks :joy::joy::upside_down_face::woman_shrugging:t3:

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Stand your ground do not reward the behavior. It will set a precedence that if they are good they will get something…when they act up cry throw tantrums. Say I can say when your done we will finish up. Stand and ignore it. If anyone says anything looks at you crazy. Look at them and say keep walking . He/she will be done in a minute.

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Watch super nanny
She gives them their own little list and lets them do shopping…

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I personally don’t have a toddler myself but I’ve heard of “extinction” working where you just don’t engage them until they start to calm down and then talk to them about why they got upset. Although I can understand why you wouldn’t want to do this in a store because of the looks you’ll get

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I just put him in the cart if he starts throwing a fit and let him throw it while I finish getting what I need

A lot of Amazon, delivery, and pick up. Sometimes I do have to walk out of the store without what I need 🤦

Involve him in the shopping… let him help find what you are looking for, let him put it in the cart, let him pick out his own little snack, etc.

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I used to talk to my daughters in the car before going into the store. “Today we are just here to buy the things we need, we are not going to buy any toys. It’s ok if you look at them and play with them, just remember we are not buying them today.” I never had to deal with them throwing any tantrums in public places. I would allow them to carry it throughout the store but would remind nicely them every now and then that they’d have to put it back before we paid for our things. I would have them put the toy away themselves and talk to them once we got in the car and thanked them for behaving so well and listening to me.

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I do everything possible to avoid going to the store with my kids, thankfully most stores have curbside pick up now :smirk: but life happens and sometimes I do have to take my children with me, I have very well behaved children some how but if they’re just having a day of it I ignore them like my life depends on it and they normally give up :woman_shrugging:t3:

My daughter is 6 now. She’s my oldest. She use to take awful fits. It was beyond humiliating. I’d shop super fast with her in the cart and apologize to everyone and get out as fast as I could :woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2::woman_facepalming:t2: I wish I had more advice. But I feel you. It was soooooooo hard