Just curious what other parents do as techniques to help their child get over whatever they may be having a fit about…
Count to 10 breathe and a hug
I put my son in another room and walk away. I tell him that we can talk when he’s not crying anymore. It takes the drama out of the tantrum when you’re not there to participate.
Tell them you’ll be ignoring them until they stop and stick to it. Walk away, don’t engage (unless it becomes harmful). The is consistency. When they are done hug them and tell them u love them and explain that that mess is unecessary.
I tell my kids that I can’t understand them when they’re crying and upset. If they don’t calm down within a few minutes, I send them (or take them) to their room and tell them that they can come out when they’re done. After they’ve had time to calm down, explain that they need to use their words when they want or need something and that they can tell me about whatever is bothering them. I also have a calming corner for them. Just a small space with a few sensory toys, nature sounds, and a comfortable place to relax.
Ignore it. When they see it’s not making you upset they stop
One of my children I threw a bigger tantrum, they got to laughing so hard they forgot what they were throwing a fit about.
I used to have a bottle of this specific essential oil I heard helped with adhd kids so everytime he got upset I’d get the bottle and hold it up to his nose and he’d breathe in deep a few times and count in between breaths. It calmed him real quick… I ended up getting him his own oil diffuser necklace so he could do it on his own as he got older
I let them throw it. They get over it. 🤷
Ask them why they’re mad. Tell them to tell you why they’re mad even if you already know. let them know it’s okay to be mad or upset but they also need to communicate on why and if they’re mad at you let them know it’s okay to say-mom I’m mad at you because you did…so many people are quick to punish their kids for having a bad day but forget we as adults have bad days and bad moods too. You ever seen an adult throw a total fit when they’re told no? That is what you don’t wanna raise. Encourage them to speak about their feelings.
Ignore it and walk away.
If in store pick the kid up n leave store
Depends on thier age.
My 2 yr old has meltdowns that sometimes she can’t seem to control. She has a shopkins cookie pillow and when she hits that point of no return I ask her if she wants to yell at cookie? I will go first and put my face into the pillow and scream out what is frustrating me… she then takes her turn. After about 2-3 turns each we both walk out of the room giggling at how silly it is.
My 4 year old autistic child throws tantrums constantly. We sit him on the couch until he cools down.
I just say I understand you are (upset, angry, frustrated, etc) and I’m sorry you feel that way. I love you. Let’s talk when you calm down. And then I walk away and ignore the behavior.
Children are human too. They have a right to be angry and upset. Let him/her have their tantrum, then get down to their level and talk.
Why are you upset?
Why are you angry?
Can you tell me what’s wrong?
What can I do to help you feel better?
Ignoring children or yelling at them does not help. How would you feel if someone yelled at you while you were upset or shut you in another room.
Children cant communicate as well as us so we need to stop and think how can I help my child over come this? How can we do things differently? Children speak through emotion. Listen to your child
There’s counting exercises. Sometimes, I just let my 3 year old run off and just pout and wait for her to come back in a better mood. Its hard to do that when you’re out though. Eventually they stop as long as you don’t give in to them. Then it’s a phase, if they’re doing it at 10 years old then somewhere you messed up. However, these tactics can differ if your child has a mental or physical disorder. Once they’ve calmed down then you can tey to discuss a solution.
Depends on the level… if he can be reasoned with I ask him to put his listening ears in and eyes on mama. My voice is barely a whisper at that point. If it doesn’t work, I let him pitch his fit for a little bit and try again. Yesterday I asked him if he was done pitchin a fit and he responded “almost” so I said ok and walked off (to laugh somewhere he couldn’t see me )… he’s almost 2yrs old. He finished his fit and “put his ears in” and we chatted about the fit. Sometimes if it’s one where he.’s lost total control, I tell him to go somewhere safe so he doesn’t hurt himself and I’ll help him onto the sofa or a mound of pillows and let him go until I can feel his energy start to calm down enough to talk to me.
Key factors for us:
- my voice never gets more than a whisper.
- i use key phrases we’ve worked on outside of temper tantrums “I can’t understand you. Slow down and try again” or “listening ears on, eyes on mama”
- I let it go if he is in a safe place
- I wait until his energy level feels like he’s ready to talk and use my key phrases again.
- I will also ask if he needs a hug. Sometimes that is enough to stop the whole fit.
Ignore and walk away its not fun to throw tantrums with no one watching
I let him have it and tell him when hes fone he gets to talk about it. " i dont speak to boys who talk to mommy in a mean way." Then he usually collects himself and talks to me. Took a while but it works for us.