How do you know when it's time to end your relationship?

how do you know when it’s time to give up? my wife keeps finding anything to leave… when she leaves she tells me to show her that I want her and to change her mind… she tells me we got an apartment and money that came in but has yet to show me or have me move in. it feels like I’m begging for her to stay with me and be a family. I know I have my own flaws but idk what to do anymore…

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I personally wouldn’t beg someone to stay in my life, no matter how much I love them

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If it’s happening over and over despite talks,maybe one last go with a marriage counselor otherwise I’d say leave. She sounds like she enjoys the drama and having you beg her to stay pretty much. It’ll suck at first but you can’t keep getting hurt. I hope everything works out!

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You can not allow her to continue playing mind games with you. This will have a lasting effect and create issues for your next relationship because these games make a person fearful of the other leaving. Or not being good enough because this one is making you prove yourself over and over. You deserve better. You deserve to be in a relationship where you ARE good enough and you dont feel like this. Its time to put your foot down and move along to find someone worthy of YOU

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Don’t do the chasing. See if she’s willing to chase you. And the very least it will give her insight into what you go through. The street runs both ways.

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Let her leave bc its obvious she wants to you can’t make her stay

I feel like there’s more to the story…but this definitely doesn’t sound like a happy situation

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A relationship is not built on one person catering to another. It is built on two working as one in the same direction you both choose together. She’s playing games and you’re enabling her to do it. This is the way the rest of your life will be spent together if you don’t communicate to her that you want something different. Communication is always the key to success. Some people communicate in different ways.

I see a meme go around a lot that says something like ‘if you want to keep her chase her like you just got together’ you know about keeping that new relationship spark. But I agree with let her do the chasing and see what she does

Smarten up then and she wont want to leave, she does it because she doesnt qant to leave but obviously knows what’s best, just my opinion, I have the same issue right now In my relationship, he says I’m giving ultimatums, i say i keeping him in the loop, least then you get a fair chance to try and change the issue at hand, rather than coming home to an empty house one day and no chance of getting her back because shes just done. At least she is communicating with you

Just leave her you are only hurting yourself

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You shouldnt have to beg ANYONE to be with you.
If she dont want to be with then leave and find someone else. A relationship works with 2 ppl not 1 doing everything to keep it together. Good luck.

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She’s manipulating you. I would tell her that you’ve done everything asked of you but she never keeps her side of the deal and you can’t put up with it anymore. If she can’t make up her mind and be with you then you need to make her decision for her and be done with her games. I wouldn’t deal with it. Walk away and give her three days. If she hasn’t changed, actually changed, or doesn’t speak to you in that time as an adult then it’s time to leave. If she belittles you and makes you beg for her, don’t do it. Stop letting her guilt trip you into staying or going back. If she made promises or said she’d do or has things but hasn’t followed thru with them, it’s time to leave. It’s not worth having someone else crush what little sanity you may have left.

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Mentally and emotionally she’s already left you. Ti.e to walk

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What is it that she says she wants from you? What has she given or offered in return? Relationships are give up and take away, not just drama. Most women want security, like a decent paycheck to care for home and family, a freedom from the risk of hubby going to jail, a freedom from competing with homies, other women, behavior-altering chemicals for your love and attention. Do any of these apply? She is pretty tore up about something if she keeps putting off her exit. Most of us struggle long and hard against giving a relationship that we put our heart, our soul, years of lur lives into. We get angry when we realize how much time we have wasted on a man who doesn’t SHOW us that he feels the same way we do. First, find out what’s missing. How to get both of you on the same team. I’m no wizard, but I’ve been married almost 40 years to the same man. What have you got to lose?

It’s time to cut her loose. Of course we don’t have the whole story , but unless you are a cheater, use drugs and alcohol,or an abuser and you give 100%, you deserve so much better.

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Successful relationships are built on eqaul effort. If you have to put in effort she needs to put in the effort too. If you’re doing all she asks but it still not enough… And she refuses to make the effort to improve with you, Maybe shes the problem?

Let her go, she likely has someone else

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Honestly I would serve her with divorce papers. Document every time she runs to her ex. That’s is not a healthy relationship and sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. And I know that you feel as if those kids are your own and you should after being with them for so long, but she is teaching them that this is what a relationship is supposed to be. She is teaching them that they can threaten their own significant others with leaving when they are older and expect to be taken back at the drop of a hat.

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