So my husband has all the classic signs of a narcissist! I’m really struggling, we’ve been married for 9 years with 2 children (8 & 2) but I’m not sure how much more I can take? I’ve been on the verge of leaving a few times before but he always make me feel I’m in the wrong and I stay! Anyone live happily with someone with narcissistic personality??? #
U don’t! Things will never change! U get out before he takes everything he can out of u and ur a shell of who u once were!
#yourlifematters PM if you’re serious!
It’s nearly impossible if your already feeling like you should then you should
U don’t. It’s never going to change. 7 years here too. And I finally got out of it in November. Still have to deal with him because of the baby but at least I don’t live with him
Nope!! You can pm me!! But nope
I’ve been with my husband for 12 years. My husband tells me what to do an I do it very controlling an mean I’m not allowed to work or have friends. I would love to leave but for some reason I wouldn’t leave him. I don’t understand why stay with him for…
You can’t fix a personality disorder. Especially, narcissistic people. If he is still the same after 9 years he is not changing.
i just divorced a narcissist, best decision i ever made. you never know how much you lost yourself until you distance yourself from someone like that. they will always make you feel like your doing something wrong, but listen to your gut and leave. you’ll be so much happier
No! No one lives happy with a narcissist. It will never get better.
Just run! I went five years because I have been a stay at home Mom of two kids. Dependent on him and finally today after a week of moving our things by myself me and the kids have gotten out. They don’t get better they only get worse, no one deserves to live like that. Best of luck!
I just left 3 days ago after 6 years. On Monday I was feeling as if it was all my fault… how dare I want kind words, loving touches, kisses without prompting… I deserved the cold shoulder and silent treatment because I just ignored his hurt. I had no right to offer my opinion on ANY subject… and him nearly breaking my arm and choke slamming me 6 years ago to get a gun away from me when he was “suicidal” had put a block up in my mind so that I couldn’t see all the sweet, kind things he did for me. All I could see was the brooding, anger, and hateful things he did. I was never the annoyance I imagined. I seriously was going to check myself into a mental institution. Wanna know why I got the silent treatment this last time? He knocked me down and bruised me “on accident” and I had a panic attack in front of 3 of our friends… how dare I make him look bad in front of our daughter (my step daughter) and our friends. No kind words at all for me. Derision and pain were my constant companions. I am in therapy now… and hundreds of miles from him. I’ll never go back. I was cut off from my family and my friends… but my oldest messaged me today, saying this: “Look at this as an opportunity, though, you can become your own person now. Take the time to discover yourself again. The woman that is more than just a mother. More than just a teacher. No man or children are the entirety of who you are. You are Marissa Dawn Black, an intelligent woman who touches lives and does her best to make them at least a little bit better.”
Get out before you lose yourself entirely. You never want your children to think this is normal… you want them to know what my son knows… mama is worth so much more!
Speaking from personal experience, they will never change and you’ll never have a successful relationship with them. Run now while you can. It might be hard and he’ll probably say or do some nasty crap but just ignore it and leave. My ex husband was a textbook example of a narcissist. Being with him for three years was an emotional rollarcoaster. Leaving wasn’t easy. He basically threatened to kill himself and all this mess. I’m glad I left though. I’m much much happier now and being treated wonderfully by my new partner. Don’t give up, there’s light at the end of the tunnel
No. Run. You deserve better. You only get one life. Don’t waste it on him. Know your worth.
You don’t. My mother is a narcissist. It makes me nauseous and angry even when I hear her voice. Shes an emotional dementor, she sucks the happy out of the room as soon as she sets foot in the door.
Almost did 12 years with someone, 2 kids as well. I broke, I’d had enough, I left. Nothing I did was ever good enough, and it played on my depression. I got more and more introverted, started taking it out on my kids. That is when I snapped. When you’re ready you’ll leave, not before.
Girl go!! You will feel so much better! I just left my narcissist of 11 years. And it’s just been a huge sigh of relief since.
The problem with a narcissist is they don’t see a problem with their actions so they honestly can’t change. Of course if you are crying or upset they see that they hurt you but to the core of their being… they honestly don’t understand what they did wrong
it is definitely a mental issue and they can’t change
Watch Dr. Ramani on YouTube. She has lots of informative videos on narcissist traits and how to make what time you have to be around them, bearable.
Absolutely not. They will never change, trust me I just lost one of my best friends of 35 years, because his new wife of 7 years is jealous of our relationship. And put friendship was purely platonic. She started saying bad things about me, so I called her out on her bullshit and unfortunately lost him because she got mad at first when he didn’t defend her. The sad part is it did not end with me, now she is going after some of his other friends.