How do you mamas find time to be intimate?

I just had my daughter on June 11th. I had it via c section, so I couldn’t have anything in my vagina for six weeks. My husband knew it was coming and understood completely. He now knows times up and wants sex/sexual favors. I don’t mind sometimes, but obviously, it’s after kids are asleep, which is after 11 most nights, then I’m up between 3 and 5 am taking care of the baby. The question is, how do you moms find time to have sex?

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You just make it work around them. I have a 3 year old a16 month old and a baby due at the end of august. Nap times and after bed tend to be the times, but don’t forget to make that time.

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Dont wait till after 11pm
It’s really import to spend time with eachother
Quicky’s

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Put the kids to bed earlier.

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Where there’s a will there’s a way lol

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Do it when you can and he should be understanding. Sex isnt the only part of being in a relationship.

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Honest if the kids are content and safe . We will sneak off to the bedroom for a quickie. Or I’ll wake him up around 2/3 am and have a great time that’s always very intimate. Or after we lay kids down and just go to the bedroom and do the deed lol. Sometimes it’s not so romantic. But I also only see my husband on weekends cause he’s a trucker . And I’m good with a quickie cause I have several insomnia and the only time I really sleep is when he’s in bed with me . And well he’s beat from work all week and running around when he gets home on a Saturday.

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Move bedtime up for the kids. I know it’s probably easier said than done, but if the kids are to young to tell time, as soon as it’s dark out, tell them it’s bedtime. Putting them to bed at 9pm instead of 11pm would give you 2 additional hours. My kids are all older, 7, 11, 17 and 17. But the 17 year olds are usually headed to their room to chill after dinner. The two youngest have become nocturnal with everyone’s schedules all messed up from COVID, but they still have “room” time. After dinner, everyone gets showers, snacks, cleans up their room and is in their room to lay down and watch TV by 9pm. We take advantage of “room time” also, and after the kids are settled, we go to our room and watch TV there instead of the living room, which makes the house quiet and helps everyone settle. Good luck. Keeping intimacy in your relationship after children is both very difficult and very important.

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Whhyyy are your kids going to sleep so late?? My son(11mon) is 730 and my daughter(5) 830-9. Put them down earlier and get busy!!!

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At night when kids are in bed (a lot of times that means the living room cuz we have kids in our bed) or for a quickie earlier in the day (you could do while baby is napping) mommy and daddy have to have a private conversation so we will be alone in our room for a few minutes with the door locked cuz it’s private or a surprise for you guys (surprise can be ice cream for dessert kids don’t know any better and you don’t let them down with a lie)

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In the morning before any of the kids are awake.

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My daughter has gone to bed at 730 and sleeps until about 7 am. Sleep training was the best thing we could have done for us

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I honestly don’t know if I can explain it any better then what’s already been stated. You get it were you can. Its sex in the shower, or a quickie when there napping or safe and content.

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Ive been married 11 years and we have 4 kids. Quickies almost everyday. Then on Saturdays we devote our time to each other to keep our sex life and marriage going

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We have seriously had quickies in my walk in closet with the door locked :sweat_smile::woman_shrugging:t3: we have 7 kiddos ages ranging from 3 weeks old to 11 almost 12 years old. You just have to make time where you can. Nap time, while the kids are having a snack, heck even if they’re all being calm and are busy playing. I will say our situation is reverse though, I’m the one always wanting sex, and my husband doesn’t want it as often lol me and my husband work opposite schedules too so that we don’t have to pay for daycare. So we literally have to make time when we are both home :sweat_smile:

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Only time is when the kids are sleeping. Sometimes the kids are in bed early sometimes they aren’t and sometime when that time comes were too tired so it doesn’t happen.

Nap time, bedtime, whenever baby is sleeping. I will say though that it didn’t happen near as often when my son was under 7-8 months old and still not sleeping super long. We coslept and stopped that at 10 months and have sex more regularly since then. It’s easier whenever your baby is a little older and sleeping more.

Put a movie on for the kids and sneak away when you can

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Put the kids down early once a week.
Make time.
Sometimes there’s only time for a “quickie”, other times more.
I understand you’re exhausted and have to be up again in just a few hours, but, believe me, “take one the team” now and then and give up that extra 30-40- whatever minutes of sleep once in awhile.
Believe me, either of you being sexually frustrated makes things more difficult and can cause tension, bickering, etc. It’s well worth that extra time.
Nobody is saying it has to be every night. But once a week at minimum always worked for us when our 3 were young.

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I haven’t had my baby yet but I just make him nut fast if I’m not in the mood :joy:

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