Not to be rude what kind of a man has his gf o wife pay half he should be the one supporting you all if i live with my hubby o bf n i had to pay half i might has live bymyself and be able to do what i want n not worry about a man
Well all I can tell you if you are pregnant with his child and you are worried about splitting bills he is not a real man my boyfriend pays all the bills and rent so I can stay at home and I babysit for extra money for the home so in my opinion go get you a real man so you don’t have to worry about ‘ splitting bills’ since you stay home and take care of the children
I buy food, diapers, wipes, toiletries, laundry detergent. I also pay for the t.v. Streaming apps and part of the WiFi and I care for our kids all day plus work 15-20 hours a week. He pays the big bills because he works more hours and makes more an hour then I do.
My man pays rent, and the bigger bill’s. I pay utilities, and my phone bill if I have money at the end of the utility Bill’s, we both buy food, diapers, pull ups, and wipes for the kids. If either of us needs a little help with a bill or what not we help the other.
Honestly if its his child and you’re in a relationship the money situation should be looked at whatever income you have it belongs to both of you so splitting the bills and rent seems pointless. The roommate pays the third and you two figure out your finances together.
Get a joint account. Problem solved.
You’re together or not.
Share income and bills as well as kids.
If you split stuff down the middle then that’s what will happen to your relationship.
There’s no mine/his. Money is put together and bills are paid from there.
Ya’ll are having a baby together your share and my share pretty much go out the window at that point. At least it did for us.
I think she’s talking about the roommates kid and driving the roommate to work, not her bf.
My boyfriend and I always had one of us pay rent and the other pay bills. Whoever was making less paid the utilities and what not and both us split paying the other stuff. But we kept all our money in one bank account anyway. So his money is mine and mine is his. It’s all semantics really if you’re sharing money and living together anyway. We stopped tallying up who paid what after the first few months of living together.
Write out a budget. Honestly show all wages earned by each household member. Take what is needed to pay each and every bill. Nobody should pay a larger percentage than anyone else, but nobody should be lying and hiding money.
I’m very surprised this is a thing still for some but in my opinion if yall are together it’s yalls money not his or yours. Ya’ll are supposed to be a team so yall combine the money. Why charge him for watching his kid while you’re there anyways?
Break down your time and bill it.
If you were at work you would have to pay for x.
Bring it to attention that way and have a conversation about it.
I will never understand why “couples who live together” split bills? When you become a couple isn’t it both of yalls money? Hubby and I put “OUR” checks together and consider it OUR money. Its not his money or my money.
No! Is he paying you to watch his child? You cut down your hours to save both of you money. He should pay you for watching his child or help with “your” portion of the bills.
The only thing I can really say to this is good luck, because you’re going to need it. There’s no way I’d be moving in with a boyfriend still referring to it as his kid, my kid and so on. Nothing about this is the right way at all. It sounds like you’re moving way too fast and haven’t gotten a thing figured out yet. I suggest taking a step back and getting some priorities in line before even thinking about these bills.
My boyfriend and I both put our money in one account I pay all the bills and put some in savings what is left we both get what we need and call it good… btw I am the breadwinner in our house I also do all the household work and kids… and he gets just as much access to our money as I do and when he was working it was the same… we are a team and that’s how every relationship should be viewed.
This really sounds like you need to take a step back and look at your relationship and have a long conversation. To me, this isn’t normal. You guys should not be even looking at the fact of what the other is paying. If you are together, you should just make sure the bills are paid and whatever is left, do what you want with it after your kids and bills are taken care of. This is crazy to me.
Ok… so this made my headache hurt When me and my boyfriend got together, he knew I had 2 kids. Upfront, he knew that WE are a package deal… if he couldn’t handle that, then he could move along. Now, we have been together for some years and even lost a child during our pregnancy. Since we are now considered ONE as it is US, it becomes OUR bills. If you are living together and that man has been all through you to create another human being,it is NOW y’alls bills TOGETHER since you BOTH have children involved. I’m so glad to have a good man. If I don’t have enough to pay something, he covers it as I try to be independent and there’s just some months I don’t make it but that’s okay as WE will get through it TOGETHER… I just don’t understand this type of relationship