Ummmm we are not married. Have a joint checking account that both our checks go into… we pay Bill’s and whatever is left we use accordingly…if he needs to make a larger than average purchase he asks me how much money we have and if I need it for something or if it’s ok if he uses it
So from what i see … you guys paid everything 50/50 before the roommate moved in…
I think the answer to the question youre actually asking is do you split them now 50-50 with the roommate or charge them 1 third … and i would say …split it thirds as its still 2 of you and just one of them…
If you are in a relationship and this is for anyone. You both help with the bills, cleaning, children (even if they arent blood related) its a teamwork, a team effort. Also, you accept the person you accept the child as your own shouldnt be an extra “add on”
I feel like an oddball. Joint account husband paycheck goes into for all bills, separate account my paycheck goes into I buy whatever I want. This was his decision & I’m 100% happy with it.
everyone has different dynamics, i’m definitely a mi casa su casa type person to the extreme with my partner (and all those previous) but this is weird. if you guys intend to share a life together why aren’t you sharing money? and children — mine, his, was this just for clarification or do you genuinely view it that way?
having this extremely divided life is not exactly normal, and if it works for you then okay, but it sounds like it isn’t considering you’re asking this question. maybe he just thought this was what he should do and he would be willing to budge on it. but i don’t think it’s sustainable. and no, to answer your question. if you’re taking on extra childcare AND taking him to and from work, on top of working part time, he should not be expecting half from you. if you really wanna split things up he should be paying the bills and you can pay for expenses for the house, car, and kids.
I mean… you got into a relationship and moved in with a man that had a child.
That child is now both your responsibility in my opinion. If you’re not willing to step UP like that then you should never have stepped IN to a relationship where there was already a child.
Tbh, that goes for you and your partner.
I believe your boyfriend and you should be combined and going halves with the roommate. You’re losing out on making money so you can watch the children. 16 hours a week is not enough to be splitting everything in thirds, especially given the reason the hours are so little.
This question gave me a headache lord have mercy the fact that this man is making you split rent and you work less to watch HIS/your kids and pregnant with his child is MIND BOGGLING
Its always just been ours. My current and I share an account I manage it. He makes way more than I do… so he pays the rent and the car payment. I pay child support on my two older kids and I pay the gas, electric, internet and the luxuries (netflix, hulu ect) and we kinda just pull the rest when its due. I’m the bill payer. I tell when its due and how much it is… I write it on our white board also
Ummm. Tell him to grow a set of balls, kick the roommate out and y’all just work on building a family. Why y’all gotta split bills or worry about who does what. If this is how your relationship gonna go just split now, and wait on the courts to work out who gets the kid and when
Am wondering what will happen once you give birth??
He should pay for you. You are pregnant, working less than half time and watching both kids !!
We don’t do 50:50 bills. We have a joint account money goes in it and bills come out of it. I’m a full time student nurse I don’t get paid for that and I work the odd shifts. As for saying about children seems petty that you say you watch his son and yours but basically still pay rent. Don’t get with a man who has a child then. I have four stepchildren wouldn’t dream of treating them different.
If he wants you to pay half the rent you should start charging him five dollars an hour for babysitting plus extras for meals cooked and cleaning up after him
I moved in with my partner while I was out of work, he had 4, I had 2, he took us on as his responsibility and pays for us, we now have a baby between us. Whatever money both of us have go into the kitty and is our money. We don’t split bills, we put our money together and take it out of that. Then when we want/need something we talk about it, and see of its left in the budget. I don’t understand this my money your money bollocks when it comes to a relationship - if you were truly dedicated to each other it would be a whats mine is yours.
And no even in your weird way of doing it if you work less, look after the kids, having another to take more time off for and do the house work and all the travelling for both you and him he needs to step up be a man and put a bit more into the pot, your a partner not a slave
Girl you his roommate smh
I mean you gotta do what you gotta do for your kids. This is why women get stuck in situations that leave them with nothing. You have to put you and your kids first. Which means don’t depend on a man to provide. Provide for yourself. Because if shit goes sideways and you end up having to pay everything with like what 3 kids? What are you gonna do? Find childcare, a reliable family member, childcare center. Maybe work on getting WIC, welfare, get yourself a good paying job and then you won’t have to worry so much about him not paying his share or whatever. But then if he starts saying he can’t pay the rent or his share, then what the fuck you need him for? Kick him to the curb and find someone who will make your life easier not harder. But the way this is told, you are doing it all wrong SiS. No shade just speaking from experience. Men are always gonna fucking disappoint you
do women truly believe that all a man is good for is for providing ? It’s sad women equate a man being a real man by paying the bills . Nasty thought process . Your all broken get some therapy
So you want a discount for watching his kid? Your supposed to be a family.This really should’ve been talked about before you two moved in with each other. And why doesn’t he take himself to work? Maybe you guys should work different shifts. So you both can work full time.
Umm you’re doing more at home so he can work so he needs to pick up more of your share. If he wants it split 50/50 then that means he does half the work at home too. It’s either you go back to full time work and he does more at home or he pays your share. When my bf moved in with me I was working full time but now I stay home and take care of our child and all the house stuff and he makes the money. It’s still 50/50 cause I’m doing my share of the work, we are a team and it works really well. I have my responsibility’s and he has his.