My SO and I have been dating for several months, and I am terrified for him to meet my daughter. He is an awesome man, and he asks about her daily. She has a dad, and we have 50/50. I’m scared because I don’t want another relationship to end for her. I am living a double life. She has no idea that I am even dating someone. So my question is, how long you would wait to be introduced to your SO’s kid? When is it too long to wait? When is the time?
Whenever you feel comfortable enough
I waited a year but to each there own
I would wait at least 6 months into the relationship before having him meet her.
How old is the kid and do you see a future!? If the kid is old enough to understand, explain! And be clear he isn’t her dad… maybe one day he may be a “bonus dad” but right now he’s there to be friends with her. (Is say 8 and older that’s the safe bet). If it isn’t serious where you see a future, enjoy your time but don’t bring your kid into it
Whenever you feel ready
How old is your daughter?
My husband didn’t meet my kids until 8 months in I wanted to make sure it was a serious relationship also I was pregnant with my third and he showed me he was here for the long haul and we been together 4 years now and I’m sure he’s not going anywhere got to make sure you are comfortable and that y’all see a future together
To me it would depend on how old your child is
How old is your daughter
I introduced my now fiance as my friend. The first meeting was in the fish department at the store.
I have never been in this situation but it definitely seems like a big step. I’d say it’s for sure good to wait, until it feels right. Also I would make sure to talk to my bf about how you are feeling. That you want him to meet her but you just wanna be sure you guys are solid and on the same page because you don’t want another relationship to end in front of her. Open and honest communication with your partner is the most important thing, ask him how he feels about it, if he feels ready to take that step. And just make sure you both are in the same page and want the same things for your relationship.
If I love you hasn’t been said then definitely doesn’t need to meet the daughter. If you are planning a future if it comes to that then why not? And I’d slowly start talking about him. Just springing it on her will be upsetting. Take the next couple of months to see where it goes and verbal intro him to your daughter by talking about him, then when she is ready introduce him
Have the 2 of you talked. Is it serious something that you think is going to be long term?! If so I’d say introduce them. Maybe not right off the bat with the this is the guy mommy’s dating kind of stuff but hey this is my friend we are gonna go
Hang out with him. I know this is so hard. I struggle with what to do constantly especially with my daughter (my son doesn’t seem to care).
Just have him over and introduce as a friend of mommy’s not a boyfriend - let them get to know each other take it from there
Whenever you feel comfortable. If you don’t feel comfortable right now then wait.
How old is the child?
I agree with those that said if you see a future together then 6 months, if not then no need for them to meet. I commend you on getting to know someone before introducing them to your child. A lot of people these days don’t do that.
I had my sons dad come over (daughters dad not in the picture). Then I invited my now husband over. That way the kids feel good and safe and theres no pressure. They saw my ex getting along and talking and joking with my now husband. That made it all easier.
With my now husband, I had a 4 year old when he and I met, we talked for 7 months before beginning to date, and I made him wait until we were dating a solid 6 months, and then I let him meet her. I also did not want to provide an unstable environment for her, she had no father figure at all, and was worried she would get attached quickly and less than 6 months felt too soon. We have been together 8 years now, and Jan will be the 9th year for when we met.
I guess it comes down to how long you have known him, how long you have dated, if you feel the relationship is stable, etc. Do you see a long term future with him or is this a right now relationship? How does he treat you? How old is your daughter? Lots of variables.